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ARTArticle***Do You Feel Free?"...no one ever pushes you toward freedom. You need to take that for yourself."n--Joan Erickson, wife of psychologist Erik Erickson, quoted in Joan Anderson's book, A Walk on the Beach.
Do you believe that someone has to give you your freedom? Do you believe that you can be free only when you ...ARTArticle***Everyday CreativityDo you tell yourself that you are not a creative person because you can't draw or play an instrument or write poetry? I often hear many of my clients bemoan, "I'm not creative!"
This isn't true! We all have the ability to be creative - it is a God-given gift - but you might not be noticing or ...ARTArticle***Fear Of Death"The modern tradition of equating death with an ensuing nothingness can be abandoned. For there is no reason to believe that human death severs the quality of the oneness in the universe." - Larry Dossey, MD
Kenny, a client of mine, told me that his mother had a stroke and has been left totally ...ARTArticle***Fear Of FailureFailure! What do you feel when you think about failure? Inadequate? Unworthy? Unlovable? It is so sad that you might have learned to link failure to your value as a person.
Most people who are successful in their work and their relationships have experienced many failures along their road to ...ARTArticle***Following A Child's LeadHow long should your child breast-feed?
Should your child go to pre-school?
Should your child sleep with you or by him or herself?
What about home-schooling vs. attending school?
Most people who choose to have children want to be good parents, and they have many questions about what would be ...ARTArticle***Forgiveness: Acceptance And Letting GoHave you ever noticed the difference in people who are able to easily let go of resentment and forgive, and those who stay in anger and blame?
What I have noticed is that those who continue to stay in blame and resentment are often people who see themselves as victims of other people's choices. ...ARTArticle***He's Trying To Control Me"I know what's coming when Robert says that we need to sit down and have a talk," Maryann told me in our phone session. "He wants to tell me everything that is wrong with me. It's not about talking - it's about wanting to have control over me. Last time he did this it was all about how I spend ...ARTArticle***Healing Your Broken HeartHaley, 38, consulted with me because her boyfriend had just broken up with her. Shocked and broken-hearted, she tearfully told me about how wonderful he was and about how she didn't know how she could survive this break up.
Haley and Owen had been together for over 2 years and were making plans ...Haley, 38, consulted with me because her boyfriend had just broken up with her. Shocked and broken-hearted, she tearfully told me about how wonderful he was and about how she didn't know how she could survive this break up.ARTArticle***How Can I Stop Feeling Jealous?"I know that my boyfriend loves me, but he has a lot of women friends. I don't get why he has to have so many women friends. I get scared and jealous when he spends time with another woman. I know I should trust him, but I don't, and I don't know what to do about this."
"My wife is a very ...ARTArticle***Men, Women, And SexDuring my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in marriages. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.
There is a very good reason why ...ARTArticle***Problems Sleeping?Insomnia is quite common in our society. While there many different reasons for sleep problems - such as poor diet, too much sugar and refined carbohydrates, too much caffeine, or lack of exercise - I want to share two major causes and the solutions to these.
Ironically, one of the major causes ...ARTArticle***Real Love Versus Infatuation________________________________________
Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation? They are light years apart.
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In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love, you want the other person.~Margaret Andersonr
Real love is never ownership, only stewardship of this moment's experiences. ~Karen CaseyARTArticle***Self Improvement: Leisure Time, Retirement TimeYou've worked all your life and now you are looking forward to retirement. How will you spend your time?
Many people have not created balance in their lives between work and play, so when it comes to leisure time or retirement, they don't know what to do with their time.
If you no longer have ...ARTArticle***Stop Escalating Conflict!________________________________________
Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Discover how to stop doing this.
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A participant in one of my webinars asked: "Is there any way to resolve conflict if you have two 'escalating' personalities trying to solve a problem? In other words, how do you resolve conflict between two very strong willed, always-right personalities, who tend to escalate with every attempt at solving conflict?"ARTArticle***The Challenge Of Good Nutrition"Eat more carbohydrates!"
"Eat more protein!"
"Be a vegetarian!"
"Vegetarians are not healthy."
"Don't eat grains!"
"Eat more grains!"
Are you confused about how to eat for excellent health? Even the research is contradictory!
Since my early 20s, I have been interested in health and ...ARTArticle***The Incredible Power Of IntentImagine two big spotlights. One is pointed upward, casting light far into the air. The other is pointed downward and buried into the earth - no light is cast at all.
This is like intent.
There are only two possible intentions in any given moment: the intent to learn about loving yourself and ...ARTArticle***The Wanting Mind, Part 1"This force [that keeps us always wanting] is known in several Buddhist traditions as the Wanting Mind. The Wanting Mind is always craving an experience different from the one it currently has."n--Brent Kessel, It's Not About the Money
There is nothing wrong with wanting - wanting more time, ...ARTArticle***What Does It Mean To Have Integrity?When I was in school training to be a psychotherapist, one of my professors introduced me to a concept that I find very valuable: "bad faith."
We are in bad faith with ourselves and others when we are out of alignment with what is true for "who we really are."
Who we really are - who is ...ARTArticle***What Does Your Child Really Need From You?Most parents want to be good parents. Yet parenting is one of those things that does not have hard and fast rules. So how do we know what to do? How do we know what will support our children in being all they can be?
One of the most important things for parents to do is to learn to trust their ...ARTArticle***What Should My Child Be Eating For Optimal Health?Understanding healthy eating has become a huge challenge in our society. Our ancestors living thousands of years ago did not have this challenge. They ate what grew and what they could catch. Before the advent of agriculture, people ate what was naturally supplied.
While I have been studying ...ARTArticle***When Not To Start A RelationshipHave you recently ended a relationship or are you recently divorced? Are you thinking about dating again?
Many times, putting yourself back into the dating scene is a good idea. But how can you know when it is time to start a new relationship?
Here are some questions to ponder:
1. Are you ...ARTArticle***Why Do So Many People Lack Integrity?"By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascents to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descents below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master."nn-As A Man ...ARTArticle*7 Step Guide To Never Having Sex In Your MarriageOne of the most common complaints I receive in my relationship counseling work is "We hardly ever have sex." Since you might be addicted to the anger and complaining around this issue, I want to make sure you do ALL the right things so you get to continue being angry and complaining about ...ARTArticle*7-Step Foolproof Guide To Creating A Terrible RelationshipNo one SAYS they want a terrible relationship, yet so many people go about creating them that we need to assume they must WANT them! So, here's my 7 Step foolproof guide to creating a terrible relationship.
1. TAKE NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN FEELINGS
Make sure that you do not take ...ARTArticle*Diffusing Anger Or Feeding The FlamesHave you ever had an argument with someone - a partner, spouse, close friend, child, parent or other relative, or a business associate - that started small and spiraled into an intense conflict? Have you ever scratched your head, wondering how it got so out of control?
Let's take a look at what ...ARTArticle*Emotional IntimacyExperiencing emotional intimacy with others is one of the most satisfying experiences of life. Emotional intimacy, or a sense of deep connection with another person or a group of people, occurs when each person is completely open hearted and devoted to taking 100% responsibility for their own ...ARTArticle*Love And Marriage: Do They Really Go Together?Do love and marriage really go together like a horse and carriage? For some they do but for many they don't.
Why not? Why does love seem to die away in so many marriages?
At the beginning of most relationships that eventually lead to marriage, the couple falls in love and believes that this ...ARTArticle*Marriage Advice: Love And Fai
ess"Love has nothing to do with fai
ess. Love is Love."
--Susan Page, Why Talking is Not Enough
"It's not fair!"
How often have you heard this from young or adolescent siblings?
I grew up as an only child, so I was never indoctrinated with the concept of fai
ess. Not growing up with it, I ...ARTArticle*Marriage Help: If You Are Thinking Of Getting a Divorce, Think Again!Are you thinking of getting a divorce because:
• Your spouse is physically abusive with you or with your children?
• Your spouse is an alcoholic or drug addict and has no intention of dealing with the addiction?
• Your spouse has a gambling addiction and is causing financial ...ARTArticle*Marriage: Self-Care and Remembering the Good StuffAre you finding yourself irritated with your spouse lately? Are you having problems remembering why you love this person - or why you even got married in the first place? You are not alone!
Ramona consulted with me because this is exactly what was happening in her marriage.
"When Randy and I ...