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ARTArticle***Breaking Down or Breaking Open________________________________________ Breaking down keeps you stuck, while breaking open allows you to discover the power within yourself. ________________________________________ "Something I didn't want to happen, happens. I feel the resistance build within. I feel the pressure to control what is obviously out of my control. I become aware of what I'm doing—I become aware of the choice either to break down or to break open." Elizabeth Lesser, Broken Open, p. 256 ARTArticle***Can You Love Others?What is loving to yourself and others is not always clear. This article presents some important questions to consider. "Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you." Wayne Dyer, Author and Speaker Please read and fully take in this wonderful quote by Wayne Dyer. Can you do this? Can you fully support those you say you care about in doing what they want, with no expectations that they satisfy you?ARTArticle***Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy?________________________________________ Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together? ________________________________________ On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work.ARTArticle***Do You See The Obstacle Or The Goal?________________________________________ Where does your mind generally go - to the obstacles or to the goal? You CAN change your mindset if it is stopping you from having what you want. ________________________________________ Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. ~Henry Ford ARTArticle***Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?________________________________________ Were you taught that if you were nice others would be nice? ________________________________________ "I had this really terrible interaction on the phone with a customer on Tuesday," Carlton told me in our Skype session. "This guy was so closed and controlling. He just kept yelling about what he wanted me to do. I was being really nice, but it didn't seem to make any difference. The conversation went on for an hour and we didn't get anywhere. He just kept acting crazy. I ended up exhausted and drained. Why do people have to be like that?"r ARTArticle***Does Your Morning Routine Support Your Creativity?Have you decided that you are not creative? Do you feel a deadness regarding creativity? “Everything about the way we start our day runs counter to the best conditions for thinking creatively,” wrote Annie Murphy Paul in an article entitled “Why Morning Routines Are Creativity Killers.” (http://ideas.time.com/2012/02/01/why-mo ing-routines-are-creativity-killers/)ARTArticle***Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work“A new analysis concludes that spanking fails to alter kids' behavior in the long term. What it does instead is amp up their aggression.” From “Why Spanking Doesn’t Work,” by Bonnie Rochman |@brochman | February 6, 2012 http://healthland.time.com/2012/02/06/why-spanking-doesnt-work/?hpt=hp_t3 What do we mean when we say that spanking doesn’t work? Doesn’t it stop children from doing whatever it is you don’t want them to do? “Want your kid to stop whatever dangerous/annoying/forbidden behavior he’s doing right now? Spanking will probably work — for now.ARTArticle***Find your GeniusWe are all geniuses. Are you ready to find your genius? “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” ~ Albert Einstein ARTArticle***Have You Fallen Out of Love With Your Partner?________________________________________ Are you contemplating leaving your partner because you have fallen out of love? Read this first! ________________________________________ We have only to look at the divorce rate—41% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages, and a whopping 73% for third marriages (http://www.divorcerate.org/)—to know that people often fall out of love with their spouse. Why do so many people fall out of love?ARTArticle***How Energy Shifting Improves Your Relationship And Attract Your Spouse BackOne of my best male friends was looking for me on IM feeling totally desperate because his wife was seriously talking about divorce now. They have been on that route before but this time she was totally serious. They have been having a rocky marriage as long as I can remember.ARTArticle***How To Get A Man To Pursue You And Make Him Addicted To You ARTArticle***Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?________________________________________ A client of mine asked, "Is there such a thing as healthy caretaking?" Here is the answer! ________________________________________ I was trained by my mother and grandmother to be a caretaker. The messages were: "Your feelings are not important to us at all. You need to learn to completely ignore your own feelings and instead take care of our feelings. In return for this, we will occasionally give you some approval for being a good girl."ARTArticle***Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Narcissism?________________________________________ Discover that 'healthy narcissism' is an oxymoron! ________________________________________ All of us have an ego wounded self who is narcissistic to one degree or another. For the purpose of this article, I am defining narcissism as abandoning responsibility for ourselves and expecting someone else to attend to us and define our self-worth, or expecting something exte al to fill us up and make us feel loved. Given this definition, ‘healthy narcissism’ is an oxymoron.ARTArticle***Is There Such A Thing As Sexual Addiction?________________________________________ Is sexual addiction a real thing, or just an excuse for bad behavior? ________________________________________ARTArticle***Oneness With God________________________________________ Have you ever felt the Grace of oneness with God? There are many things you can do to have this at will. ________________________________________ "Praying without ceasing is not ritualized, nor are there even words. It is a constant state of awareness of oneness with God." ~Peace Pilgrim “…awareness of oneness with God.” What does this mean?ARTArticle***The Secret To Lasting Love and Commitment From The Man You LoveWe've been told that the way to love is pretty linear and straightforward with guys. They take us to a first date, they like us, they make plans and ask us to be exclusive within a month or two, they fall in love and pop the question. Trust me when I say that very often guys don't know how they feel about you in the long run nor do they know what they want. And often the route isn't that straightforward either. That's WHY giving the right impression in the beginning is very important. That's why I don't advise calling a guy up.ARTArticle4 Steps to Overcoming OverwhelmOverwhelm is an expected consequence of divorce. I say that because WITHOUT EXCEPTION it's something I work on with every single one of my clients. It's also something I had to learn how to overcome when I went through my own divorce. What I'm going to share with you today is EXACTLY what I share with my clients as we pick through the pieces of what makes up their overwhelm. The result? They ALWAYS feel calmer and more in control of their situation. You will too, if you follow these 4 steps.ARTArticle5 Actions For Successful RelationshipsCouples that have a very good relationship are not just lucky. Successful, loving relationships do not just happen. The couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships are not taking. ACTION 1 - KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHER Think for a ...ARTArticle5 Critical Steps to Effective Role Modeling - How to stay on track and inspire your childrenI have noticed that, more often than not, an underlying question that many parents have is, "HOW can I be an effective role model?" Parents who are on the path of conscious parenting have made a commitment to expand their awareness, examine their limiting beliefs and continue to create and sustain healthy, authentic connections with their children. Sometimes, parents express that in spite of their efforts to instill positive, empowering attitudes, they feel that they are not able to always clearly demonstrate behaviors they wish to see in their children.ARTArticle5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid ThemAs a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear ...ARTArticle5 Steps to Getting Into the Groove and Getting Things DoneMy husband laughs at me a lot because he thinks I'm just not hip. The funny thing is I agree with him. I often use slang that is WAY out of date and when I try to use more current slang it just sounds funny coming out of my mouth.ARTArticle6 Scriptural Misbeliefs of Christian CodependencyThe following 6 Scriptural misbeliefs form the basis of Christian codependency. They show how inaccurate Scriptural beliefs contribute to codependent choices. The cure is an accurate understanding of what the Bible says about ourselves and how we are to value ourselves compared to others in relationships. Here are the 6 Scriptural beliefs:ARTArticle6 Scriptural Misunderstandings of Christian CodependencyThe following 6 Scriptural misunderstandings form the basis of Christian codependency. They show how inaccurate Scriptural understandings contribute to Christian codependency. The cure is an accurate understanding of what the Bible says about ourselves and how we are to value ourselves compared to others in relationships. Here are the 6 Scriptural misunderstandings:ARTArticle7 Ways To Improve Your RelationshipGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...ARTArticleA Breath of LifeA narrative is a story or an account of an event. Jesus taught by telling parables to illustrate his moral attitudes and religious principles. I use narratives in family regulatory therapy and find them very effective.ARTArticleA Chiropractic EpiphanyI had my very first chiropractic visit last week and in the midst of it I had a few “a-ha” moments. It never ceases to amaze me how Life brings forth a lesson or two in the most surprising and unlikely settings. First of all, the reaso I had never gone to a chiropractor before was because I could not imagine going through all the twisting, turning, pulling, popping and cracking that I “knew” there would be….Hmmmmm, sounds a little like fear huh??ARTArticleA Prayer for AllI have often wondered about the possibility of one universal prayer that would break through the barriers of all the different religious beliefs, and somehow connect everyone and not offend anyone…..tall order, huh??!! After all, if we were able to all connect like that, then I suppose we would have to give up war and other life-threatening dis-eases (oops, sorry, a little sarcasm just slipped out!!). As I have thought about that more and more, what keeps coming to me are prayers that I believe the indigenous people of the world might use.ARTArticleA Tricky Supervision ChallengeMany managers believe that treating their team members as responsible adults will assure excellent results. The truth is that while this usually is effective, some people need much firmer limits than others to perform their jobs. Ellen, the manager of a rehabilitation hospital unit, was discussing her frustration in supervising one of her social workers. Ellen would much rather help Angelique be successful at her job than to fire her, but things have not been going well.ARTArticleAbundant or Redundant: Where do You Live?Abundance….this word has become quite popular these days as one of the latest “metaphysical buzzwords”. ‘Creating abundance”, “Manifesting abundance”, and “living the abundant life” are just a few of the abundance of abundant clichés these days. All of these sayings are trying to convince us that this abundant Life is just out there waiting for us to step into it. So you may be asking the $50,000,000 question: “How do I do that?” Quite frankly, I’m not sure I have all the answers to that but I do have some ideas that I thought I might share with you.ARTArticleAbuse: Five Signs That You Are Dating An Abusive ManAbuse in relationships is all too common. Once you are in a committed relationship with someone who is abusive, you will find that it is harder to get out of it than when you are dating. This is because you begin to experience a crisis of self-doubt and low self-esteem the longer you are in the relationship. The best thing to do is to pay attention to signs that you are dating an abusive man and end the relationship as soon as you figure it out. Here are five signs that you are dating an abusive man:

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