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3 Ways to be Happy in Your Relationships

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This month, I’ll be covering 3 different ways to be happy in the different relationships in your life. It’s something all of us want, but it’s not always the easiest thing to achieve. Why is that? I believe it’s due to assumptions we make.

We’re so quick to assume things – a look means “this”, a tone of voice means “that”. But we could be totally off. Unfortunately, because it becomes our perspective of the situation, it becomes our “truth”, when in reality it could be flat out wrong.

There are 3 main assumptions that can trip us up in our meaningful relationships. These include:

Assuming someone’s mad at you: This tends to lead to defensiveness. It’s just the natural reaction to someone getting upset with us. This defensiveness can exacerbate the situation and cause even more harm.

Assuming someone’s disappointed in you: The difficulty with this assumption is that it puts a lot of pressure on you. This fear of disappointing others forces us to spend a lot of time and energy trying to keep people happy.

Assuming someone’s judging you: This assumption causes us to wear a pretty “mask” in order to hide who we really are so we’ll be accepted. We then worry about never being able to measure up to that fake perfection we present.

As we focus on ways to be happy in our relationships this month, I plan to challenge all 3 of these assumptions and show you exactly what you can do to overcome them. So, be sure not to miss one single post – every Tuesday!

Here’s Your Vibrantly Live Challenge: Which of these assumptions do you tend to default to most often? Which one causes you the most difficulty when you’re focusing on ways to be happy in your most important relationships? Now that you’re aware of that, pay close attention over this next month to situations when this pops up so you can begin to make different choices

Be sure to share your discoveries below. Until next time – get out there and vibrantly live! Bye!

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