Are You The New 10?

You remember the old ten, right? She was personified by the gorgeous Bo Derek in 1979 in the movie, “10.” She was model thin, stunningly beautiful, and the desire of every man, gay and straight. Straight men wanted to be with her, while gay men wanted to be her. She was the girl in the posters hung in auto shops and on every adolescent boy’s bedroom wall.

She was the woman who drove our American expectations about beauty into the world of make-believe and who drove “regular” women to anorexia, diet pills, tanning beds and self-loathing. It is true. Women have been hit hard in the area of self-worth with the onset of the old ten. We desperately tried to measure up to her, and in doing so, lost much of our self-esteem and lost sight of our true, authentic selves.

Well, here it is 30 years later and as the planet shifts into a more kind and gentle place, so do our ideas about what constitutes a ten. I’ve coined the phrase “The New 10” after years of working with women, young girls and myself in the area of self-worth.

The New 10 is a woman who honors and loves herself –her entire self: mind, body and spirit. She nurtures her femininity and revels in its magnificence. She is a beacon to women everywhere as her inner goddess shines brightly. She is kind and nurturing, while she is oblivious to the opinions of others and gracefully runs her own race. As she does, she invigorates and energizes everyone around her, giving them permission to expand in their greatness, inviting their audaciousness to the forefront.

The New 10 takes excellent care of herself. She is constantly monitoring what she consumes in the way of food, thoughts and energy. The foods she chooses are healthy and nutritious and contribute to her overall health and stamina. She reads, watches and listens to inspirational and educational information that contributes to her positive mindset. She chooses her friends carefully and spends her valuable time with people who uplift, inspire, love and support her.

The New 10 understands that her choices form her –that she is the master creator of her life. She is not perfect by any means, but learns from her every mistake, seeing them for the golden opportunities for growth that they are, and forges a new course that aligns with her true spirit. The New 10 knows she lives in a benevolent and abundant universe and never hoards her blessings. Instead she shares them with the world, knowing that is her purpose for being here.

Where are you? Are you The New 10 or are you stuck somewhere between the old and the new? I invite you to explore how you view yourself and how you treat yourself. Are you loving, kind and nurturing to every part of your precious being? Are you fully expressing your divinity to yourself and the world? If not, why not? As a child of God, it is your birthright, your calling, your purpose.

It’s time to redefine The New 10 for ourselves and for our daughters. Are you in?