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Celebrate! Any excuse will do - Ronit Baras
It is a unique point in time when a person contemplates his or her purpose in life. When I was a kid, I had different reasons for being. I could not see the stream and I could not imagine the destination it could take me to. Staying in one place was a goal I spent a lot of energy on because it was easy and comfortable. For children, life is a chain of continuous changes. Finding rules, structure, logic and sense only promotes the fear of change and blocks the eyes from seeing options. In every period, I think I had more rules to live by and at the same time felt it was much harder to let go of them and allow the stream to take me to fascinating destinations I could hardly imagine.
I love birthdays and special events because they are great points to think again about this. In my calendar, I happily write special events in the life of our family and close friends. Through these events, I remember that there is no reason for being here without purpose.
Yearly assessments are great checking points. My birthdays are opportunities to check achievements in the last year . Birthdays are opportunities to check parenthood and the love for your kids. Anniversaries are opportunities to check relationship with Partners . In that sense, it's great to have a big family.
Every event is wonderful checkpoints for us as individuals, partners, parents and coaches.
Every year, we celebrate our achievements, get rid of the things we don't like and explore new streams on the river of life. Relationships play a major part in our purpose. We believe that life's ultimate purpose is to establish excellent relationships with ourselves and others. All our clients - the young ones, their parents, the old ones, the men and women, the business owners - deep inside, they are all searching for a way to communicate with themselves and with others. Just like all of us, they have spent many years of their lives mastering the acquisition of knowledge rather then the thing that will determine their happiness in life - their relationships with themselves and with others. Most of us have spent over 12 years of our life learning how to learn. Do we need 12 years to learn how to relate? Well, no! Life coaching is a fast course in relationships. Even in a business environment, the success of a business is determined by the relationships among team members, service providers, managers and customers. Events in a person's life and in the business are good check points for assessing relationships. It is like looking at the mirror every day, without being able to see the changes from yesterday. Taking snapshots and revisiting them from time to time makes it easier to see progress.
Tip #1
Add as many events into your calendar, every day you can celebrate your achievements from the previous day.
Tip #2
Write a success jou
al. Have a book where you write every day or so, just a few words to describe your thoughts, feelings, successes and events. It describes the growth you've made. Your jou
al is a wonderful snapshot tool.
Tip #3
Remember: It is all about your relationship with yourself or others. Master relationships!
Tip #4
Dream! Inside your dreams lies your purpose. Live with a purpose.
Tip #5
Add any success from your jou
al into your event calendar. Aim for an event a day and watch your calendar filling up with events until every day will be a celebration.
Tip #6
Ask friends and family for celebration ideas
Tip #7
Count your blessings. Write a list of things you are grateful for and look at them from time to time to add, change or celebrate them.
Tip #8
Believe! What you think on the inside is reflected on the outside, whether you like it or not.
For all of you readers who have kids, you know that raising kids is a perpetual event. Do you remember your child's first year when someone asked you how old he or she was and you said "4 months and 4 days"? In our house, every day is a birthday. Every day is good enough to celebrate the birth of a love that wasn't there before they arrived. It is easy to celebrate with kids because their successes are ours therefore can be added into our calendar of events, to get closer to our goal of every day is a celebration day.
Tip #9
Add events in your children's life into your calendar. It will create more family celebrations. This is an alignment of values. It's called "bonding".
Tip #10
Celebrate! Any excuse will do.
Until next time, Be Happy in Life and Celebrate!
Love, Ronit
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