Curb Anxiety -- How to Keep Calm and Carry On
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- Appreciate that a certain amount of fear or anxiety is useful and protective. Thinking you’ll never be laid off, receive a poor evaluation, not get the order, or outlive the crazy boss is naïve. Listen to your body and that voice that says “warning, warning!,” just don’t become good friends with the feeling.
- Be realistic about the perceived threat. Are you giving more credence to something than it deserves? Magnifying the issue? Are you taking facts from a previous experience and misapplying them to the present? Do you believe gossip or the opinions of others over your own reason? Some of us can see a threat in everything. Others are rather blind. Ask yourself, “How big a deal is this?” and “Is it possible I am over or under reacting?”
- Assess your ability to cope. Use a little sports psychology. Yes, the slopes are icy and the turns tricky but you know the course and have weathered worse conditions. Challenge yourself to think of times when you triumphed over adversity—outlived the politics, delivered great results (despite the environment), thrived while under great stress. Then ask yourself, “How can I apply this knowledge to my current situation in a way that is useful and appropriate?” We have a tendency to forget how well we have done. Sometimes we need to give ourselves a gentle reminder, other times a “blow to the head.”
- Collect the facts rather than default to your emotions when confronted with a major challenge. You may be surprised with what you find.
- Honor your feelings. Facts are important but sometimes intuition and emotions are early indicators that something’s up.
- Keep a running list of your successes (handy around performance evaluation time too) and occasionally take a peek. A few photos strategically placed on your desktop also helps remind you how good you can be or of tougher times.
- Once you have the facts, acknowledged your response, and are armed with a list of successes, you can then take a multi-dimensional look at the purported challenge(s). You can now accurately assess the potential or perceived threat and respond accordingly.
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