Emotional Eating - Get Beyond the Food

What is eating about?

Beautiful tastes and textures, wonderful aromas, a pleasing plate of food?

Something to fill you up when you are hungry?

A great gift that you can share with others, while you also enjoy their company?

A list of calories, fat grams or carbohydrate grams?

A stack of guilty pleasures or healthy (less enjoyable) alte
atives?

Food shouldn’t be any one thing to us. We use food to give calories and nutrients to our bodies, for sure, but it is also a source of pleasure for the sheer joy of eating. It also enables us to spend time with others in a social and sharing way.

And occasionally we have to eat because we are hungry, even though we may not have time for food. Occasionally we use the food to fill in the long gaps between nothing, eating from boredom or loneliness. All of us have a composite approach to food, a mosaic of behaviours that describes our relationship with food.

But what predominates for you? And are you using food too often to fill in the gaps in the rest of your life (or to block out other things that are going on)?

In order to see how you view food, next time you eat, and for the next couple of days ask you self these questions before eating:

* Am I really physically hungry? And on a scale of 1 to 10 how hungry am I? – calibrate your eating to cope with your hunger.

* Is this predominantly a social meal that I am having with friends? -If yes you might want to spend more time talking and listening than eating.

* Am I eating from habit simply because it is a meal time? – You might want to wait half an hour or so and then re-measure your hunger (but don’t let yourself get TOO hungry).

* Am I eating for emotional hunger – to fill in an emotional gap (I’m lonely or bored) or to squash too much emotion (I’m angry).

It takes courage to answer the last question (and I’ll be talking more about courage in the next newsletter) but if emotional eating is your downfall you cannot deal with it purely at the level of the food, you have to address the emotions.

Sometimes just stopping and allowing yourself to feel what you are feeling can give your emotional brain the support it needs, so you can go on to REALLY enjoy your food.

Try it and see. And if you need help with this let me show you how.

(c) 2009 Liz Copeland