Figuring it out vs. Working it out

A lot of people come to me and tell me they’re stuck. They are trying to figure out something or another, and they can’t seem to figure it out. Whether it’s getting more clients, making the right staffing decisions, making more money, finding time to exercise, etc, people often feel like they’re thinking themselves in circles. Problem-solving has its ups and downs, but when it comes right down to it, there’s two sides to the coin: figuring it out vs. working it out. Figuring it out is all internal, and within the confines of existing thoughts. It’s very difficult to problem-solve this way, because as Albert Einstein once said, “You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.” Working it out is a simpler, less stressful way to problem solve, and all it takes is three easy steps: Get Out of your own Head, Consider your Choices, and Take Action! Of course, some people find it a little difficult to jump out of their own head, so pick one of these three methods that may reduce the anxiety even further and get you off on the right foot again. 1. On paper – Do something to work out your problem on paper. It’s the fastest and most readily available way to go. If you know how to make a list or an outline, you can break down any situation into smaller components. Maybe you know about mind mapping…try it. 2. Another approach is to write out a few questions, then answer them, such as:

a. What’s the challenge?
b. What are the obstacles standing in my way and the limiting beliefs tied to them?
c. What are my strengths, resources and positive beliefs on this matter?

i.**for more on my frame-shifting-frame exercise, take a look at my previous blog post on the subject**

d. What are my options?
e. What will I do next? What is my best next step? By when? – Hold yourself accountable and you’ll astound yourself with what you’re capable of.

3. Talking to a friend – Now, we all have those friends who are negative, critical, or just really bad at listening. Don’t go to them. Only go with friends who know how to listen and support your success. 4. Talking to a coach – Okay, I know I’m tooting my own horn, but let’s face it, coaches are made for this sort of situation. We train for it and we know what questions to ask to get you out of your head and onto the next step that’s right for you. I call it the “Win-Win Check-In.” It’s unconditionally constructive accountability that has you at the top of your game, problem-solving and moving forward toward your ultimate goals. If you’d like to try a complimentary session, click here. Maybe we’ll work something out together, even during the one free session! It would be my pleasure.