Single Mom Finding Love Before 40

Why are you still single? It's this the question every single person hates. I used to get this question all the time. Now, I get more of the statement that's a question, "You're single?!"

What follows immediately is "Why?" I used to say, "If I knew the answer, I wouldn't be single anymore."

Now my response is, "Because I refuse to settle."

I'm 38 years old….oops 39 years old (just had a birthday), and I've been single a lot. Yes, a few relationships here and there if that's what you'd even really call them, but nothing too much to speak of. I think refusing to settle is a great quality, especially with so many people settling in different aspects in their lives.

That's not even mentioning the high divorce rate. I think part of the reason it's so high is because people settled in who they want, in what they thought they deserve, or in thinking they can't "get" anyone better. I don't want that for myself.

I used to be extremely picky…and able to tell you down to the letter T what I wanted my man to look like, act like, and what job he would have. Yes, I was living in fairy tale land, but that was almost 20 years ago. Over the years, what I'm looking for in a mate has changed drastically. Now it's more about security, chemistry, and compassion. Yet my results haven't changed. As I've relaxed what I want, it's almost become harder to find…yes, it probably has something to do with time's inability to stand still.

I've gone to bars, restaurants, and meet ups. I've attended concerts, churches, and single events. I've tried dating through friends, work, or online. Nothing seems to be working. Yet, I know I'm not destined to be single for the rest of my life.

There are 229 days before I tu
40, and I'm going to find love before my 40th birthday. That gives me just under a year. If you know someone…a brother, friend, coworker, or relative that you think may be a good fit, please don't hesitate to send him my way. It never hurts to ask. I'm a firm believe
if you don't put it out there, it won't happen.

I'm putting it out there, and you can help make it happen! Oh and one last thing (okay a few last things), he has to want kids, not smoke or do drugs, and be okay with my having a young son. YAAAYYY! Happy hunting to me!

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