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GRIEF AND FINANCES

Topic: Grief and LossBy Sandy Clendenen, M.A.Published Recently added

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Do you know your net worth? The first time I was asked this questio
I had no idea what it meant. Even though I paid the bills for our farming business, I really did not pay attention to the bigger picture. I had money to pay the bills. that was the important thing. Right?

When my husband died there were many discussions with advisors about my finances. I was told my net worh. there were financial planning discussions, but no one explained to me what net worth really meant. I assumed that I should already know what this meant.

I didn't ask. I wasn't told. Net worth was a mystery that I chose to ignore. I was still able to pay my bills. that was the important thing. Right?

I consider myself fairly intelligent. I have run my own small business. I had money. I was able to pay the bills. That's the important thing. Right?

I paid the bills and worried constantly about my financial situation. I wanted to know more, but was afraid of what I would actually discover.

Through financial education and coaching I have learned that my early conditioning around money and finances was blurring reality.

My family didn't talk about finances when I was growing up. I believe that translated for me that this was a taboo topic. And I began to believe that I really didn't deserve to know about money or to have money.

So tell me about your experiences around money. What were you told or not told as a child?

Did your family teach you about basic finances or do you feel somewhat lost in the world of your finances?

It happens a lot for women. And often the first awareness comes after the death of a spouse or divorce.

Education is the key. Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings confidence.

YOU DESERVE TO FEEL CONFIDENT ABOUT YOUR FINANCES.

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I have training and experience working with grief and healing. I provide educational products to help those who are feeling stuck in their grief process to move beyond grief.

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