Handling problems

Around 100 AD an old Greek writer named Plutarch said the Spartans only ask where the enemies are, not how many. His description of the Spartan attitude was simple. We have a problem so we are going where it is and face it. We will see what to do and do it when we get there.

I can find no better attitude. Whether the problem turns out to be too big to handle, not so bad, or just my imagination the first thing I need to do is get face to face with it. Realistic dimensions are needed before construction.

Problems need to be broken down into chewable bites just like any other project. How many bricks or boards? Where will I get them? Separate fact from fantasy. If I don’t have enough money, I don’t feel good, I’m not getting along with people, the roof is leaking, the process is the same.

Take a good look at it. Decide what needs to change to relieve it and what the first step is. Start working. Complaining is pointless, stressing is unhealthy, action brings results. When I am thinking about solving the problem I am not fuming about having the problem. I can’t concentrate on both at once.

If I have multiple problems, I pick the toughest one, concentrate and get to work. Get an outcome. If it is completely solved, great. If not take it as far as I can and move on. Get it off my mind. I’ve done what I can do. Unless it is immediate life or death it is now just something to make light of in a future bull session.

Creating some type of automatic routine that gets action going when problems show themselves eliminates some of the fear, worry and stress. We will never be without troubles but can reduce their impact.

Time actually passes at the same speed whether I am doing something productive or not. Tomorrow comes right on schedule no matter what I do today. So the question is do I want to arrive at tomorrow in the same condition or with some progress?

Do I want to be facing the same stuff and feeling the same way? Do I want to live three hundred and sixty five interesting days this year or the same frustrating day three hundred and sixty five times?

If I choose progress it will not happen by itself. One minute of self pity is all that is allowed.