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How to Stop Fighting – Yourself and Others

Topic: Peak PerformanceBy Jonathan Flaks, M.C.C.Published Recently added

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Stop fighting. Either take a stand, with a strong case, or stand aside. If you're fighting about something that happened, get over it. Resentment and revenge cost you more than it's worth.

Try forgiveness - which doesn't mean you accept that a wrong-doing is right, but that you have the wisdom to accept that it happened, is in the past, and can live with it having happened. You have that power.

Stop fighting yourself - if you're feeling stressed, overwhelmed or indecisive, you are causing yourself unnecessary anguish. Make a decisions and a commitment - either do it or commit to not doing whatever you're stressed or overwhelmed by. If you make a plan and spread out your best priorities and commitments over time, and decline the ones that are mediocre or energy draining, you'll produce better results and have a better quality of life.

What decisions do you have to make to stop the fighting today? Let me know if you'd like to talk it through and get some feedback or perspective.

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About the Author

Jonathan Flaks, M.C.C., Business Success Coach - http://www.jfcoach.com. Since 1998, Jonathan has been helping entrepreneurs, business owners and professionals focus on and reach ambitious goals, maintain continuous confidence and motivation, and achieve balanced success. Jonathan maintains a Master Certified Coach distinction from the International Coach Federation. He earned a dual degree from Cornell University and was Adjunct Professor in Business Leadership and Coaching Skills for New York University. Clients have come from BMG Entertainment, Morgan-Stanley-Smith-Ba ey, KPMG, Disney, Deloitte, Honeywell, Goldman Sachs, and many entrepreneurial and professional service firms. If you want to start every week with a positive, confident attitude, visit Monday Morning Mini-Motivation Meetings.

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