Positive thinking: 6 typical speech mistakes.

Every word in the language has a certain meaning, not only semantically, but also emotionally. And learning how to use positive formulation is the best way to self-realization! Let's analyze the typical mistakes often made in speech. So, they are... 1. Habit of generalization. It can be recognized by the words "everybody", "always", "none", "never", as well as by collective nouns: "people", "teachers", "doctors". We often hear statements: "No one understands me"; "All men are the same." If a woman has a small bust and a very strong belief that all men love big breasts, then is it a wonder that she can not build serious relationships which she is longing for? If you're talking to someone who uses negative generalization, for example: "You never do what you need!" – We should apply deductive reasoning and clarify what exactly you "needed to do" and when was the last episode when it was not done. We must take in hand our own habit to generalize. Once another generalization comes to your mind, it is necessary to make it clear for yourself, whether "nobody loves you", or are there at least a few people who care about you. 2. Incorrect verbs. One woman, a 4-year-old boy mother, strongly attached to her, says: "I understand that this situation is wrong, but I can not push him away." While she thinks in terms of "pushing" her beloved little son, the situation will not improve. In this situation the only way out for her is to use other internal statement: "I should allow him to be more independent." 3. Love for the word "problem". Unfortunately, this word with negative cathexis is very popular among people. "I have problems in family life" – husband came home late from work, "I have a problem with the dog" – I do not know what collar to choose. When you listen to them, these people turn out to be unable to get out of their problems: one thing after another, but the things are not so important. The best way out here is to stop calling thing a problem, if it is not so. Better use this wording: "this situation requires my attention." 4. Negative statements in positive disguise. The most striking example of this is a bandied phrase towards an ill person: "Get well, we need you healthy!" It would seem a good phrase, but have you ever wondered what a negative charge does it bear? I would like to ask a question: do you need him healthy, but won’t you need him ill? Such phrases erode relationship imperceptibly, like pernicious viruses. 5. Believe in impossible. These are the phrases with the words: "I can not", "no way", "must not", "it is impossible." These words express certain limits according to which a person used to take his opportunities and to act. They are often formed in childhood and are set by significant people: parents, relatives, educators and teachers. A young man thinks that he can not find a good job. This is his basic belief and it’s very hard to change it. He will find a thousand explanations why it happens exactly this way: for health reasons, lack of experience, lack of competence, shyness. He got accustomed to think of himself as an unsuccessful man, and found a way how to be him. But if he says he wants to change the situation he should change the wording first.