The Path We're On

Most people when they hire me want to talk about their pasts and futures. As humans, we seem to keep excellent mental records of our lives as we have lived and as we want to live. It can be difficult in this high speed and stressful world of ours to see ourselves where we are.

As a life coach helping people identify the path they are currently on is critical in the process of a creating the path they would like to be on.

Acknowledging our present situations is an important aspect in personal growth and development. Many individuals tell me that they want to move on and get away from their current situations, including addictions, extra-marital affairs and so on. While I certainly appreciate the desire to get away from those toxic experiences we cannot do so until we deal with and recognize our lives as they are presently.

Knowing the path you are on now is challenging. In our society today we are bombarded with news and information about other people. Much of it is bad news and so we easily get caught up in other peoples’ dramas and situations and lose sight of our own.

What does the path we’re on consist of? First, we have awareness. We have to acknowledge what our situation(s) is/are. This awareness will allow us to recognize where we are going and what motivates us. Becoming aware of who we are now will require effort and dedication. We will have to slow down our thinking and take some control over our minds. Remember, our minds love to wander to the past and the future. When we wake up in the morning we can take control by noticing where our mind is taking us. Does it take us to the place(s) we no longer want to go? Does it take us to negativity and fear and dishonesty? When we take control we can begin to simply redirect our minds to a more positive and healthy place.

Second, the path has opportunity. We have the opportunity to identify with ourselves and to determine our current purpose and intentions. Are we taking advantage of these opportunities to grow and be healthy or are we wasting these opportunities and falling back on old and familiar ways? Motivation is an important aspect of opportunity. As we are able to increase our motivation we will find ourselves moving away from our basic needs and our unhealthy patterns to more purposeful and healthy things.

Finally, the path has action. When we have learned to recognize who and what we are and have motivated ourselves enough to make healthier and more purposeful choices we have to act. The path we are on is a busy one. Our natural tendencies will be for us to fall back to what we already know, even if we know it is wrong and unproductive. The more deeply we develop our awareness and our motivation to take good opportunities the more we will act in a way that will lead us to the path we want to be on. When we are able to see ourselves in our current situations and recognize what we need to do to move away from them we are already making progress.

Copyright 5monkey Life Coaching. 2008