Understanding Divorce Through Spirituality! Part 1 Of 5

Hello every one its me, Brian Allen here once again after a long rest that I have needed to incurred to recharge and regenerate my energy into giving my readers some further guidance in using spirituality when being faced with divorce.
This will be of great help when dealing with divorce either for the first time or even second time around.
I thought about condensing the main points into one post alone but as this is such an important issue or point I have decided to divide it into 5 parts this being the first of the Five.

I must start by out-lining the essence of these posts which is to show you how close a divorce is to losing a loved one through death.
Death is a very unwelcomed part of our lives affecting us each and every time some one we know passes over.
There are only two guarantees in life, one is taxes and the other one is death.

I want to point out in this first posting that when we have a divorce to accept whether we are instigating it or receiving it, it will affect us in the same way as a bereavement does.
It can hit us hard or it may take some time for the emotions to surface, either way its an inevitable emotion that I believe has five parts to it.

These five aspects or emotions are as follows:
The first is DENIAL, the second is ANGER, the third is BLAME, the fourth is DEPRESSION and the final part being the fifth is ACCEPTANCE or TAKING CONTROL, the last to are very similar and I will cover these last two in the fifth and final part.

So lets begin now with Denial.
These can of course be in a different order but 9 times out of 10 it does happen in the exact order as I am framing my post to you here.
Denial is the first we label out emotions on as its such a shock! How on earth could this have happened, surely there is a mistake, why me?, why has this happened to me? What have I done to deserve this? and the thoughts go on and on.

If we can deny something in our lives then all of a sudden it sort of goes away, its now not true, it makes it all better for that short time.
Depending how long we can keep this denial up will depend on our ultimate belief in keeping up the denial aspect.
Having a spiritual belief in some thing, some one or with-in the universe will always help us all in many different ways.

Spirituality in my own opinion is always a lot more powerful than a religion. I must stress that I mean no disrespect for any one that follows any religion in the world at all.
I am just making a statement that in my own opinion spirituality can be more powerful because there are no rules or traditions to follow.
Spirituality is an individual thing that we feel is right for us, we just connect to nature, to mother earth, to an energy that feels good to us.
We don’t even have to explain it or give any explanations as to how it works, no need for gatherings or rituals that are cast in stone.

No, its just connecting with a force that we believe exists, even if we can not prove it, we just know that there is a force out there that’s bigger and greater than ourselves.
Spirituality brings people together where as religion often separates us.
It does this by asking certain groups to conform to this and that but we must not do this or that, so by the very rules and conditions this is what separates one religion from another and there fore separates us as individuals. I really hope that this makes sense to you because if you are DENYING yourself of a belief then you are really missing the bigger picture.

Divorce is very much the same, if we are in the denial stage then you will not be able to process the coming events with ease.
They will just become reasons to feel great unhappiness and will only slow down the process that’s inevitable and thus making it all the more painful and never being able to move forward with strength.

Please first accept the denial, accept that its happening for a reason and that there are lessons to be learnt here.
Dig deep inside and be brave enough to accept that it is real and it is existing in your reality, how you deal with it will be down to your own spirit with-in.
So accept that its real, that it does exist and that its here to help you in the long term whether we want it or not.

Remember that when you believe in any spiritual energy that even after death or divorce there is another life awaiting for us, its only the end of a particular chapter.
There will be other chapters you simply just have to believe that the next page does exist and have the strength to turn to the next page.
I look forward to seeing you in my next post which as promised with be on Anger!

This is just part 1 of 5 to come in “Understanding Divorce Through Spirituality!
Part 2 Of 5 will be about facing ANGER in Divorce, I look forward to seeing you here again soon.