Timothy Arends
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Describing himself as a "recovering shy person," Tim Arends took it upon himself to discover the best strategies for overcoming shyness and has shared them with thousands of readers online over the past 20 years. He has authored an Internet FAQ on shyness and has been an Expert Author on SelfGrowth.com since 2009.
Tim has also authored "Break out of Your Shell! How to Overcome Shyness So You Can Get On with Your Life!" available on Amazon. He is also author of the ebook, "How To Remember People’s Names; The Master Key to Success and Popularity."
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Why You MUST Remember People's Names
How many times have you had the embarrassment of seeing someone on the street, in the cafeteria, in class, or elsewhere and been addressed by name--but, for the life of you, you couldn't remember the other person's name? But what's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. That may be true of some things, but not of people's names. A person's name, as Dale Carnegie wrote, is to them the most important sound in any language. It is their unique identifier. It is a part of them.
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Powerful Ways to Prevent Childhood Shyness
Shyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, but may develop shyness later on. Why is this?
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How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness
Shyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, but may develop shyness later on. Why is this, and how to help your child get over shyness?
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3 Simple Tips on How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness
Too many parents are too busy with their lives to worry about interacting with their children. But the first opportunity the child gets to socialize with people is with members of his or her own family. In the early stages, the child may want constant attention. "Mommy, mommy, look at this!" However, as your child matures, he or she may actually need encouragement to “open up,” and need practice in more complex social interactions.
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How To Have Confidence Overcoming Shyness, Girls
Want to have confidence overcoming shyness, girls? Here are three power steps to do so. 1. Fake it till you make it. By behaving in certain ways, we can change how we feel. Studies done at the University of Califo ia School of Medicine in San Francisco had volunteers make six facial expressions signifying various emotions. When the volunteers looked afraid, their bodies reacted as if they were afraid: their skin temperature dropped and their heart rates went up. The same with anger. Similarly, feigning confidence can help you feel more confident.
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Top 5 Myths About Loneliness
According to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
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A Powerful Five Step Plan for Beating Loneliness
According to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
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Keys to Overcoming Loneliness
According to a New York City psychologist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, sitting in front of TV doing nothing, anxiety and depression." In fact, researchers in the United States, ...
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How to Remember People's Names in 5 Simple Steps
How would you like to know that you could go about improving your memory for people’s names by probably 40 or 50% simply by learning a few simple tips? You can — by using a simple procedure used by Napoleon the third, nephew of the great Napoleon. He boasted that even with all his duties as ...
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How Shy Men Act Around Women They Like
Want a crash course in how shy men act around someone they like? Put yourself in their shoes. Think of a time that you felt shy yourself. How did it feel? How did you react? Shy people often have trouble making eye contact. They may tend to look down at their feet more than extroverts. Perhaps they get tongue-tied and don't know what to say. This is just how shy men act around women they like sometimes.
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How To Know if a Shy Woman Is Interested in a Man by Taking Action
Everybody has certain verbal and nonverbal cues that indicate how they feel. Very rarely do people come right out and tell someone about their deepest emotional states. On has to learn how to interpret these nonverbal signals. Doing so is is the key to how to know if a shy woman is interested in a man. But perhaps, rather than spending too much time obsessing over these nonverbal signals, if you are the man in question, you should take the initiative. If you are successful, it will become obvious whether the woman is interested in you or not.
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Creative Conversation Topics
Want some creative conversation topics? These are good topics or questions to have in reserve if conversation starts to lag on a date or in any other situation. First of all, however, don't overlook the obvious topics. Talking about the weather is seen as hackneyed, but it can lead to a very interesting discussion if the person you're discussing it with is interested in scienctific subjects. Asking the other person what type of books he or she likes to read is always a good topic and can lead to interesting discussions, especially if you find that the two of you share some interests.r
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Timothy Arends
"Let’s be honest: being a good conversationalist does play a role in how popular we are. In fact, conversational skill and poise is probably as important as any other factor in attracting other people to us. If people find us interesting and stimulating they will tend to enjoy and seek out our company. In other words, possessing an appealing skill, such as good conversational ability, makes us more appealing to other people."
"Remember is that the greater the number of people you strike up a conversation with, the greater your chances of forging new friendships. I won’t go so far as to say you will never be snubbed, but if you are, so what? There are plenty of other “fish in the sea” and there are plenty of other people out there just waiting to meet somebody like you!"
"Joining a volunteer group is a great way of meeting compatible people. If you’re interested in the environment, join an environmental group. If you’re conce ed about illiteracy, join a literacy tutoring program. You’ll meet people who not only share the same interests, but probably the same sensitivities as well. Of course, you must be genuinely conce ed about the issue the group is involved in. If you join such a group merely as a means to meet other people, the others will spot your phoniness and resent you for it. You probably won’t find the people you meet very interesting, either. However, when you stick with a volunteer group, you automatically create a sense of partnership with others. You demonstrate that you have a genuine conce and interest in the things other people are conce ed about!"
"The man or woman who possesses self confidence is impressive to the opposite sex for the same reasons that he or she is impressive to anyone else. People naturally think that there must be some underlying reason for all this self-confidence"
“Flirting is not some enigmatic, indefinable quantity. In fact, effective flirting consists of these five simple steps:
1. Make eye contact.
2. Smile.
3. Use an opening line.
4. Expand the conversation by telling something of yourself.
5. Encourage the other person to open up and talk about whatever interests him or her—careers, hobbies or interests."
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Tim has also writte "How To Remember People’s Names; The Master Key to Success and Popularity"