17 Dating Tips For Mystics

Meeting a compatible person for a relationshipncan seem out of reach at times for singlesnin the dating scene. Dating can be difficult,nas anyone will tell you who has experiencednonline dating disasters or grueling blindndates set up by well-meaning friends.

For those who are more spiritually sensitiventhan average or actively involved in personalngrowth and the self-realization process (e.g.,nprefer to search deeply into the meaning ofnlife), dating can be even more challengingndue to the increased tendency to see thingsnas they are, rather than as they would likenthem to be. The following perspectivesnabout dating while on a spiritual path cannhelp make dating more fun and productive.

1) It’s easy to get caught up in hopesnand expectations when dating, but thenbest policy is to drop them. Knowing whatnworks for you, yet at the same timensurrendering and accepting your situationnas it is and accepting any person younmeet as they are will make dating far morenpleasant. For example, you can acceptnthat people who avoid inner searching andnself-help methods are are going to viewnyou as an extraterrestrial when you tellnthem about the visions you see duringnmeditation. Luckily, you have f.ree will tonedit your conversations and be morenselective about who you date.

2) Try not to feel insulted when you readnsomeone’s personal ad who responded tonyours and intuitively conclude they arenlying about some of their profile statisticsnor that their pictures are probably tennyears old. Calling them on it will only causenconflict, so just accept that the type ofnperson who misrepresents themselves inna personal ad isn’t going to acknowledgenthe hassles it creates and might verynwell behave this way in other parts ofntheir life.

3) During the first phone conversationnwith a new dating possibility, don’t takenit personally when they ask you 100ninterview questions to see if you qualifynfor the part in the relationship play theynare casting. Unlike you, they’re not makingnan attempt to intuitively sense thencompatibility and are likely trying to fitnyou into what they want rather thannaccepting you as you are.

4) During the first face-to-face meeting,ntry not to share the clear, past life visionsnyou see of the person as a cruel, Romannslave-driver long ago. They couldn’t possiblynunderstand that you really did know themnin a previous lifetime or that one of thenreasons you could not bring yourself tondate them in this one is because you werenone of their badly treated slaves.

5) Likewise, until you know they are opennto the possibility of reinca
ation and pastnlives, try to refrain, at least during the firstnfew dates, from informing them that yountwo were passionate lovers in a past life.
This kind of news, while exciting for you,nmay seem too weird to them. The samengoes for the information about your lifetimenas a booze smuggler, pickpocket, or opiumnaddict. As amusing as the stories could be,nthey just wouldn’t understand.

6) When they are telling you about howntheir previous relationships ended becausenof how horrible their partners were, butnyou see right through their version of thentruth and sense the real story--how it’snbecause this person couldn’t be honest ornmonogamous to save their life--keep it tonyourself. Vocalizing what you sense wouldnonly spark discord.

7) When this person (from number 6 above)nsuddenly tells you, on the first date, thatnyou’re the only person they want and thatnthey’d “never” cheat on you, take it with angrain of salt. They mean well, but don’t knownthemselves well enough to know better. Ifnthey did, they would be honest withnthemselves and be upfront about hownthey prefer s.exual variety.

8) Go easy on them. Due to your heightenednawareness, in part, from the all the worknyou’ve done on yourself, you may understandnthem better than they understand themselves,nso it may be like relating to a child at times.

9) Try not to laugh when your date, who younstrongly suspect (after getting to know themnsomewhat) would lie, steal, or cheat to getnwhat they want, says, “I believe in karma.”
They don’t yet understand that everythingnyou do, even if you don’t get caught, comesnback to you.

10) As the date (from number 9 above) startsndigging for information about your net worthnor how much money you make (with dolla
signs sparkling in their eyes), just smile andnsay, “the Universe is my checkbook.” Whennit comes time to pay for your drinks, resistnthe urge to skip out the back door and leaventhem with the check and remind yourselfnthat this would create bad karma and tienyou to someone you’d rather avoid.

11) Luckily, you can save time by usingnmeditation and intuition to screen potentialndates. Don’t cancel a date just becausenyou sense they may not be the love of you
life, but if you get several clues that thenperson isn’t ready to date, for example,ndon’t be afraid to cancel. Just be sure tonbe considerate and let them know you’rencanceling or that too will create negativenkarma.

12) It may be better to wait for a morenappropriate time to share how you psychicallynperceived them to be, within 5 minutes ofnmeeting on the first date, a very expressivenand generous lover. While some people wouldnbe flattered, many would not like feeling sontransparent to a stranger.

13) Be grateful when someone dumps you.
They probably weren’t right for you anywaynand you are now f.ree to meet someone whondoesn’t think you’re crazy because you trustnyour intuition.

14) Your heightened awareness may seem likena curse at times, like when you wake up onenmo
ing and suddenly, intuitively, andnmysteriously know the fated outcome ofna relationship after only two dates. Just bengrateful for it, as it can save a lot of timenand heartbreak.

15) When you crave a relationship and feelna great sense of lack without one, remindnyourself that dating and love relationshipsnare an addiction for many and self-actualizationnmethods, such as meditation, can be a cure.

16) Keep in mind that the more personalngrowth work you do on yourself, the fewe
people there will be who are compatible.
The payoff for becoming more self-actualizedncan be more enjoyment of being single, andna more fulfilling and less taxing relationshipnwhen you do meet a compatible person.

17) When you do meet someone with whomnyou share compatibility and chemistry, andnyour new significant other asks you whatnyou see for your future together, it may benbest to simply remind them (and yourself) tonjust enjoy the moment rather than worryingnabout whether or not the relationship will lastnas long as desired.

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