Article

4 Things to Consider When Taking a Risk in This New Year

Topic: Relationship AdviceBy Dr. Michael S. BroderPublished Recently added

Legacy signals

Legacy popularity: 1,546 legacy views

You may have already begun taking the steps to see your New Year's resolutions come to fruition. Perhaps you finally got around to joining that gym, or maybe you were able to confront a friend about something on your mind that's difficult to talk about. Whatever new you may have initiated so far is a step toward change. And with change comes some degree of risk.

Maybe for you, taking a risk is exciting and fun. Prudent risk taking can lead to a better job, happier relationships and a more fulfilling life. However, if the fear of taking a risk holds you back, staying in your comfort zone and thus avoiding changes has a price as well!

So when considering a risk this year or simply executing your New Year's resolutions, keep in mind these four key points that are the staples of successful risk takers:

1) Your comfort zone is nothing more than an attitude. If you're happy with your life exactly the way it presently is, then maybe your comfort zone is where you'll ultimately choose to stay. However, if you stay in your comfort zone and resist change out of the fear of failure, success, looking foolish, rejection or even change itself, then living in a comfortable state of discomfort can only serve to shatter your dreams. Most simply put, your comfort zone is not a place, but an attitude that you have chosen to "protect" yourself. And like all attitudes, you can choose to change it right now -- I mean this minute.

2) Are your fears realistic or simply anxieties you can ignore? When considering a risk, think about the worst thing that could happen. Then ask yourself if what you imagined as the worst is: a) likely to be the result, b) something you could actually handle if it did occur and c) worth keeping you in a toxic comfort zone. Then make sure your decision is one made out of choice -- not unrealistic fear or anxiety.

3) Losses can be even more important than wins! Your losses test your capabilities and can provide you with the most important learning there is! They help you grow and provide new insight that you may not be able to get any other way. When you keep that in mind, you can turn your losses into no lose situations, because losses provide proof that you can handle a setback. As long as you don't let that undermine your self-confidence, future risk taking then becomes easier and easier!

4) It's your life, nobody else's! No one can tell you how broad or narrow your comfort zone should be or what risks you should or should not take. The choice is yours. So look at the attitudes that hold you back, then decide whether to choose "safety" or to open a new door that can help lead you to the life you were born to live.

The New Year is a great time for renewal and change. When taking risks in order to achieve this year's goals and resolutions, resolve to let go of all unrealistic fears and anxieties that hold you back. The ball is in your court! So what's the next step to fulfilling that dream of yours?

Article author

About the Author

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. is a renowned psychologist, executive coach, bestselling author, continuing education seminar leader, and popular speaker. He is an acclaimed expert in cognitive behavioral therapy, specializing in high achievers and relationship issues. His work centers on bringing about major change in the shortest time possible.

His latest book, Stage Climbing: The Shortest Path to Your Highest Potential, has received much praise from such notables as Deepak Chopra, Steve Covey, Mark Victor Hanson and many other professionals; citing it’s groundbreaking and user friendly cognitive behavioral self-help approach.

A sought-after media guest, he has appeared on Oprah and The Today Show as well as making more than a thousand other TV and radio guest appearances. For many years, Dr. Broder also hosted the radio program Psychologically Speaking with Dr Michael Broder. He has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street journal, Time, Newsweek, and hundreds of other publications.

Further reading

Further Reading

4 total

Article

Param Pujya Dadashri and Hiraba’s married life was full of peace, mutual respect and humility. Their worldly conduct and interactions were idyllic, so much so that family and friends noticed their unity and love for each other. For instance, Hiraba would visit the local vegetable market daily, she would ask Param Pujya Dadashri, ‘What vegetables should I buy?’ Thus, performing her duty of asking and He would reply, ‘Buy whatever you would like, therefore fulfilling Hi

April 3, 2025

Article

The early development of avoidant attachment creates a coping mechanism that forms in childhood. Disconnected parent-child interactions typically trigger this condition. People who develop this attachment style learn to depend on their resources. They avoid deep emotional connections. People with this attachment style want intimacy, yet they remain afraid of becoming dependent on others. Understanding Avoidant Attachment Among the four primary attachment styles, avoidant atta

February 6, 2025

Article

So, you want to Play swinging? Do you like the idea of having sex with several attractive people, with no strings attached? Want the chance to explore your fantasies with like-minded people? Love having the intimacy and long-term commitment of your partner, but don't want to miss out on the opportunity for sexual exploration and variety? If this sounds like something you'd like to try, the increasingly popular lifestyle known as 'swinging' could be for you. What's so shocking

August 29, 2024

Article

Even if you don't have a swing club near you, the online swinger dating website is a good choice for you. In recent years, online dating sites have become increasingly popular, and swinging has become one of the most popular lifestyles for married couples and bisexual people. If you are looking for a swinger couple, here are some swinger dating websites where you can enjoy an adult swing. Adult Friend FinderrnAFF is the world’s largest sex community and swinger dating site.

August 29, 2024