5 Tips for the Frustrated Single

It’s been a long time and you're ready. I understand. Here are your 5 tips towards having what you truly desire in a mate.

1) This is the first thing you should know: You can have what you want. Give yourself permission right now.

2) Secondly, don’t believe the hype. All men aren't bad and all women aren’t crazy. The same way you're reading this, knowing full well that you're a wonderful person, there’s a wonderful mate looking for you too.

3) I know it’s been some time since you've been in a great relationship. I know. You feel that time is wasting. However, don’t let time make you do things you wouldn’t normally do. You have no business at a club trying to find your mate when you really would rather have a tea or coffee. Maybe your guy likes Starbuck’s and that’s where you’ll meet him. Avoid doing ridiculous things that will give you anxiety just because you haven't met your mate. Like I said, he or she is there and looking for you too.

4) Believe! It is said that possession is nine tenths of the law. Well, I tell my clients, "Belief is nine tenths of the law too." Trust that who you are looking for is out there. You might not get every single solitary detailed quality of what you want in a mate, but you can have most of what you want. That’s for sure.

5) Write down what you want in a mate. Many important events are written - marriage contracts, mortgage on a house, baptisms. So write down what you want in a mate and write it positively. For example: “He likes to spend time with my children and me.” Instead of, “He doesn’t go out all the time without us.” Thoughts are things, so say what you want, not what you don’t want. Years ago, my husband and I were at a restaurant and we had an experience with a server that neither of us enjoyed. When we went back to the restaurant months later I turned to him and said, “I hope we don’t get that person again.” Sure enough she took our table. Say and write what you want, not what you don’t want. Lesson learned.

There is no magical way of finding a mate. However, we can become love magnets and attract who is best for us by having a winning attitude and a strong belief that we will meet our mate. I have found that when we're open to believing in our good, and adjust our attitudes for the better, more good comes to us with less effort. And remember, just as you're looking for him or her, he or she is looking for you too.