***A Failed Relationship: Don't Make The Same Mistakes Again

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Marriages and relationships fail. Love sometimes ends as the flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends as a disaster. Now the challenge is how to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again. Here are the five important actions you need to take to avoid repeating the same mistakes from your failed relationship: 1. Be honest with yourself above all else. Figure out what you could have done differently in your previous relationship or marriage. What could have improved the relationship before it came to an end? Could you have spent more time with the one you loved, or taken more interest in their hobbies, or noticed the signs of trouble earlier and sought help to resolve the issues were festering, or talked more openly about what was bothering you? 2. Keep the thoughts of your past relationships off your mind. Now that you have analyzed what you could do differently, stop thinking about your past relationships. We know as love and marriage experts, that isn’t as easy as it sounds. But, it is important to take that step and let go of your negative, longing, or wistful thoughts about your past relationships. Whenever you begin thinking about one of your past relationships, take a deep breath and begin thinking about your favorite song, place, book, or movie. Think about anything that will get our mind off your past relationship. 3. Invest the time to repair your spirit and your balance. Take the steps to get healthy mentally and physically. Take time to heal and stabilize after your failed relationship. You can't make appropriate decisions "off-balance" or in an unhealthy state. You need to heal yourself first. 4. Know your self worth! Don't fall for seduction and settle for the first person that shows interest in you. Wait to find someone who shares your values, beliefs and interests. 5. Recognize that your next love will come along when you find someone who shares your interests. You need to develop your own interests -- be it kayaking, camping out, dancing, or biking. You are much more likely to attract the right potential mate at places where others share your interests. 6. Be content - enjoy what you have! If you have good health, a place to live, or a job, you already have more than many people in the world. Focus on the positives. Your happiness will attract others to you. Creating a successful marriage is not always the easiest thing to do. Your visiting our blog suggests you are highly interested in making your marriage work! And truthfully, we have learned over 30 years of marriage research that there are proven effective ways to ensure a happy and healthy marriage. In fact, we took hundreds of tips from the thousands of happy couples we interviewed and put them into our award-winning and bestselling book, Building a Love that Lasts . Today, you can see how you stack up to the best marriages around the world. Take the Marriage Quiz to assess your chances of achieving a successful marriage of your own. you witness the signs, take action. Save your relationship if you can. Having a healthy and happy marriage is one of the great success stories of life. It is not too late to save your marriage. In love and marriage the simple things matter. Love well! By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitzr America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts