Adoptees and Regrets

I’ve been working with adoptees for nearly 20 years now, and I thought I had heard pretty much every regret there was to hear from an adoptee, but yesterday I heard one I hadn’t heard before, and it caused me to feel a profound sadness. An adoptee contacted me about scheduling an EFT session, and on my intake form she said that one of her biggest regrets was having been born. She was feeling abandoned by her birth family, but also apparently never really felt like she was a part of her adoptive family, so she was feeling totally isolated and alone, and wished she hadn’t been born. By the end of our conversation this adoptee realized that she wasn’t feeling strong enough to face her demons, so no session was scheduled, but I was left feeling that I needed to reach out none the less. I dedicate the tapping script below to the adoptees who feel totally alone in the world. Please know that you’re not. Setup: Even though I feel like I’m completely alone in the world and don’t belong anywhere, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. Even though I feel so alone that I wish I’d never been born, and that’s a terrible way to feel, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. Even though I feel isolated and alone, and my birth family didn’t want me, but I don’t feel like part of my adoptive family either, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, and I choose to consider that there are people in my life who love me and care about me. Reminders: Eyebrow: I feel so alone in the worldr Side of eye: I don’t feel like I have a familyr Under eye: My birth family didn’t want mer Under nose: But I don’t feel like a part of my adoptive familyr Chin: I’m tired of feeling so alone in the worldr Collar bone: I wish I’d never been bo Under arm: This is so painful for mer Top of head: And I’m tired of hurting and feeling alone. Eyebrow: I don’t have a familyr Side of eye: Or maybe I dor Under eye: I’m completely alone in the worldr Under nose: Or maybe I’m notr Chin: I feel so isolated and aloner Collar bone: But maybe I need to find another way to look at thatr Under arm: Maybe I have people around mer Top of head: Who genuinely care. Eyebrow: Choosing to work on releasing the feeling of isolationr Side of eye: Letting that feeling drain right out of my bodyr Under eye: Choosing to recognize the people around mer Under nose: Who truly do care about mer Chin: Letting go of the feelings of loneliness and isolationr Collar bone: Letting those feelings flowr Under arm: And then letting them gor Top of head: Replacing them with an energy of peace and healing.