All That You Will Ever Be

All that you will ever be resides in your hands. It does not lie in the person next to you, down the street or anyone else around you. People, places and things might help to influence what you want to do in your life, but it is ultimately up to you.
All that you will ever be does not lie in yesterday’s experiences, it lies in your tomorrows. What one person says or does is on their shoulders, it is not to be rested on yours. You will be, and will have what you desire most in life.
Your path is your own. You can help others out, but they have their own journey and you have yours. Free your soul of all unnecessary bonds that will drain you and cause you undo frustrations and aggravation. Life is so precious and sometimes we take that for granted. It is usually awakened in us when something devastating happens to someone close to us.
You are here to walk your path in life and by staying grounded you appreciate all that surrounds the universe. Do not take on someone’s fear, guilt, depression or any other negative traits. This is putting a huge cloud over the sun that lights your soul. It will ultimately take a toll on you. It is like a sinking ship. You can help bail out the water, but at some point you will have to get a lifeboat or swim. The other person will have to do the same.
I have seen others take on emotional weight and unnecessary blame due to someone else’s actions. Let go of that. It serves you no purpose in your life. You have to take a step back and realize that it was their actions, not yours, that put them in that situation.
“Letting go” is easier said than done. So how do you rid yourself of someone else’s emotional torment? Well, first off, you always want to help in any way you can. If it is out of guilt or manipulation, then notice it for what it is. Say it by name aloud and see how that feels to you for starters. Would you manipulate someone else? Then don’t allow someone to do it to you.
Next, change the standards. It is ok to say “No” to people. It is ok to say, “I don’t like what you’re doing” or “I don’t like how you treat me.” Maybe they didn’t realize that it had such a bad effect on you and they will change the way they treat you. If they don’t change, then it is up to you to walk away from the situation.
I wrote this as I realized just how much people carry negative emotions from others, and it is hurting their own soul.