Are you a human being or a human doing?

The theme of my life has now developed into a more effortless shift into the flow of my life. I am very aware of my own unique energy and live every day in tune with my own body rhythms. I wasn’t always this way, it took a conscious effort for me to unlea
the rules of life I had learned through my development and begin to honor the dynamic energies of my body. Now I have shifted to live from this place it is startling to me how many of us don’t (and how long it took me to change! lol)
As a coach I spend much of my time coaching individuals to unlea
before they have the space to begin to learn something new. I have realized that we are all developed usually within some unconscious patterning and for most of us it is a revelation to really begin to know that this is our life for us to choose to live in our own way. For us to wake up to this realization is often an emotional process as we begin to re-patte
the beliefs and conditioning of our childhood. I have had the opportunity to watch many mature individuals (including CEOs) take their first steps into the unknown as they begin to wonder who they are behind all their socialization and learned behavior. To wonder if there is a me hidden deep within that exists with its own ideas about what it wants from life, its needs and aspirations for living a fulfilling life.

We are all so busy these days that it can be challenging for us to STOP. We go from place to place, task to task always doing something. What if we were to stop and consider how we were showing up with our energy - who were were BEING during the course of the day? Think about it for a moment - are you happy, irritated, satisfied, impatient, successful? What do those things mean to you? What would others say about you?

Consider the following behaviors :
Do - have - be
orr
Be - do - have

In the first example, the emphasis is on what you are doing. It is important to be doing something, so you can have certain things, so you can be somebody. In the second example however it is completely reframed. You get to be somebody first , preferably yourself! How is easy is that? Just being yourself then leads you naturally to doing certain things which consequently leads you to having things.

Which is easier? The first seems to be to be hard work as you try to do the right things so you can get the stuff you want. It is full of effort and not in tune with your own energy. The second seems much easier, isn’t it easier to just be yourself and have the life that flows from who you are naturally being? Why not take the easy route and focus on being you? What if it were that easy?

Who you are being in any day is more important than being busy. The quality of your being is probably the most important ingredient for you to live life fulfilled and successful. If you can accept yourself for who you are, you can show up with your whole self to your life and your work. You will be different. People will notice. Very few of us do this, so when we meet someone who does, we are easily attracted to them and their work. We recognize the power of someone who has really embraced their life. What’s stopping you embracing yours?

Over the next few days - have a go, join our little experiment just for fun and see what happens. Take a few of the following steps and see what a difference they make in your life. Get in touch and let me know what your life of being is like...
Be honest with yourself about who you are. Get to know yourself beyond who you want yourself to be, as well as who you are afraid you might be and leave only room for your truth.
Give your true self some expression - let who you are inform your daily life. Acknowledge your own needs and wants, listen to your body, really listen to it. What happens to your energy?
Consider how you can put the second example of Be-Do-Have into action in your life. Carry a small card around in your wallet which reads “Whatever happens I am willing”. Stop resisting who you know yourself to be, stop resisting what life brings your way. Don’t fight your life, flow!

Even the smallest changes can make a huge difference, so be kind on yourself and start from now.