You are all you need to deal with in life
"How can I get past these obstacles?"
"How can I deal with these difficult situations?"
These and many similar questions I often get from clients and it's true with most people that they see a multitude of obstacles and hindrances when movig on with their lives.
It often leads to inactivity for a long time or even giving up.
There are few simple steps to deal with this, but they are very demanding as they don't work unless you have a clear focus on what to do and the selfdicipline of not waisting your time with things that do not matter.
You are all you need to deal with in life and your only hindrances are:
- Your fears
When we aim at our goals our mind quickly counts up all the problems we might face and thereby creating fear.
Fear often comes out of not knowing, of overrating the obstacle, of undermining one's own abilities.
Start by giving the mind a rest, try not to rumage over the situaton ahead. If you worry about the worst scenario and it's effects, half the effect and then again and again until the worst thing that can happen is like getting sprayed from a waterpistol (visualize it! You'll be amazed how funny it is and relesing from your fear!).
Empower yourself by viualizing that you are doing this thing you fear and you are giving the best performance you aim for. So you are setting the stage for the situation ahead and you become calmer, more composed and in control when it arrives.
- Your prejudices
We have prejudices both against ourselves, others or even situations we are in. Limiting ourselves as we look through the prejudice spectacles and diminish possibilities in situations, or feel we don't know what to do as people "do not understand", "are not interested", "do not share our views" etc.
Sometimes we need to give our brain a rest and just allow the flow to take over and do what comes to our heart.
You never know, but you might be saying what the audience has been waiting for and never deared to mention. Even maybe as you "come from elsewhere" it's easier to hear it from you and it will not ripple the unity whithin that group.
It's always good to remember that we are never greater nor mightier than the next person and the only one that can hurt us is ourselves.
We lead ourselves to where we are at in life.
Certain things we have done with ambition rather than foresight, but then we started to use our insight.
If we search for our own development let's remember that good things happen slowly.
Remember to keep good things in mind.
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