Being a man

If you're a typical nice guy, considerate, genuine, likes to talk and have intelligent conversations with women then you MAY have been in this situation before. Do you ever find that the more you talk to her (without escalating physically) you end up talking yourself out of closing the deal. Suddenly you realise her body shift, the conversation die out to some neutral and boring topic, and she starts looking around the room at other couples possibly thinking "man why isn't this guy making any moves on me, does he like me?". If you know what I'm talking about here then keep reading as you're not alone, in fact this used to happen to me ALOT. This I consider also a HOT topic when it comes especially to dates. You're sitting there at the table, opposite each other face to face, had a great meal and a bottle of wine, and you're thinking "How do I kiss this girl from all the way over here" and my old favorite "I haven't touched this girl all night and it's going to seem awkward if I touch her now" suddenly this distance between you seems to be drawing out and it seems she's further and further away from you. What eventually happens is you call it a night and you're outside the restaurant ready to part ways, and you touch her hand poised to strike her a kiss on the lips ... and she flinches .... then she looks down at your hand like to question you "What are you doing" or "It's too early for hand holding buddy" and all of a sudden a drip of cold sweat lines your neck and your pulse starts racing, palms get sweaty and all you hear is your heartbeat thumping away like the Swazi bongos. pum pum ... pum pum ..pum pum pum ... Okay ... Getting a little dramatic here, well this used to happen to me on MOST DATES and the reason is I let it happen, I knew what to do and how to prevent it from happening again but I was scared to act. That was a long time ago, now this NEVER happens to me as I assert my inhibitions and I don't apologise for being a man and thinking AND acting how a man SHOULD act. I no longer wait for the end of the date, hell no, I kiss her when I feel like kissing, or touching her, putting my arm around her waist when I feel like it. I act on impulse and it's worked for me ever since I started doing it. In each of us there are two processes, the first is what is socially acceptable in the circumstances. i.e. We have a great dinner date, we take a long walk, I drive her home and I get a kiss at the doorstep. May get lucky 2nd or maybe even 3rd date, maybe. Then there's our inhibitions of what we WANT to do, have a quick dinner, foreplay in the car on the way back to her place, "Make her surrender and submit" to you in the bedroom, the kitchen, the lounge room and on the balcony and then you kiss her good night and tell her to call you. Nice huh ... The good news and strangely enough the most effective strategy for having more success from the date to the bedroom is to break social norms and follow your inhibitions. Women respond to this more and appreciate this more than the "nice guy" approach. Nice guys finish last didn't you know? : ) Stop watching chick flicks, where nervous "sensitive" actors are making a sissy fool of themselves courting and being gentleman like. Forget hiding behind these social ideals of how dates should go and create the date how YOU want it to go. The fact is most of us get our knowledge on the dating scene and the "how to" on dates from movies. Answer this honestly do you ever consult your male friends and ask them what to do on a date? Do you ask your siblings, parents or other family what normally goes down? no probably not. You get the ideals from movies, film, tv and the MEDIA. Yes, that evil media that manipulates men into buying gifts, expensive diamond rings, working 50 hours weeks to get a good car and an expensive apartment so women will be more responsive to them. The fact is women aren't much more responsive to this as much as you think, I know of guys who take girls back to their hostels (where they share a room with 20 other people) and they close the deal on a bunk bed. They do this consistently too with beautiful glamour girls. Women want men pure and simple. What women want is an un-apologetic man who believes in honesty, being genuine and is unashamed of his desire as a man. If the girl says "let's just be friends" which is the dreaded friends zone line he would say "I have enough friends" and walk away or convey he's willing to walk away. Powerful huh. Women RESPOND to men. Women want MASCULINE MEN to take them in every way possible. They want the man to be most importantly:nn-Unapologetic about their desiresn-True to themselves (don't say things that are meant to impress her) -Genuine and sincere Don't be ashamed of what you're thinking and be open to touching her and kissing her when you feel like it (Don't plan it or do it just because this is the moment when you "should" touch/kiss her). I hope you learn from this and start acting out your desires as this is the only TRUE way to live. To find out how to meet, attract and seduce women then subscribe yourself to the “5 Step System”. A FREE Audio ebook is sent directly to your email.nnhttp://www.DatingWorkshops.com.aun