Dinner Date Feng Shui - Dating Advice For Independent Women

This may seem surprising, but as a strong, independent woman, you have likely adopted some traits that were traditionally considered masculine. The reason is simple: Today women are self-sufficient with successful careers. You know how to take charge, make things happen, and pay the bills – all behaviors once ascribed specifically to men. While a take-charge attitude works great for business, it can create an unnecessary stumbling block on the dating journey.

Don't get me wrong; I'm not suggesting that women shouldn't be themselves – strong or independent. But, dating hasn't caught up with equality in the work place. There are real advantages to heightening your feminine charm during the first few dates and even longer. Knowing how to make way for a man, to nurture his ego, makes you far more desirable.

Feng Shui and Balancing the Energy

Let's examine this concept from a Feng Shui perspective. Feng Shui is the ancient art of harmonizing energy for the most auspicious and powerful outcome. Usually this refers to the placement of furniture in your home or office.

But in dating, you can improve attraction by balancing the energy between the sexes. For example, who calls first and initiates the date? You'd be amazed at how seemingly simple actions can impact how attractive you are to each other and how well you get along.

Too Much Autonomy Can be a Turn-Off

While independence is a wonderful quality, staunchly stated independence indicates you can do without him. Even today, men still want to feel needed. Of course you don't NEED him, but it's nice to have a good man around or why else are you dating? Don't push him away by being overly self-sufficient.

Dating is like Ballroom Dancing

Many powerful women say they want a strong, masculine man. To attract such a man, start by allowing him to pursue you. Compare this concept to ballroom dancing where you can only have one leader and one follower. Neither two leaders, nor two followers will work for obvious reasons. One of each position is required for graceful dancing and early courtship too.

Modify Chick-in-Charge Act

If you want a partnership between two strong individuals, these subtle energetic suggestions will make a huge difference. You aren't being asked to give up your power, just modify when and how forcefully you use it.

1) Let Him Talk to the Maitre D'
When you enter a restaurant with a date, he'll likely let you walk in first. But don't use your primary position as an opportunity to take over. Let him talk to the hostess or maitre d' to say how many are in your party and put his name on the waiting list.

2) Let Him Take the Command Seat
Let him take the chair that looks out over the room, has a view of the door, or it's back to the wall. This choice is instinctual and harkens back for centuries as a safety measure.

3) Let Him Order the Wine
Contribute your ideas or tell him what you like, but let him order from the wait staff.

4) Let Him Take Charge of the Bill
When the bill comes, let your date look at it first, unless you have a prior arrangement to treat him. Even if you plan to split the bill (but not on the first date!) you can still let him be "in charge" of the process.

These simple steps allow a man to lead whether you've just started dating or if you've been together several years. Why risk emasculating your guy at any stage? Use your feminine charm like women have for ages. Supporting his masculinity builds his ego, which almost always works to your advantage. A secure and happy man wants to make "his woman" happy too – and, if he doesn’t, head for the exit yourself.