Do You Listen to Your Children?

Are you listening to your children each day when they talk to you or do you find that you have a tendency to go away mentally? Do you find that in your family relationship things that you use to do together is not working any more?nn Lost touch You may find that your work has being taking much of your time that when you get home all you want to do is sit and do nothing. You are not the only one so don’t feel bad about what you have been doing. You need to change your priority, if you are feeling bad about not spending time with your family. If you find yourself only paying attention to your children when you are either in the restaurant or you are buying something for them to compensate that tells you something about the way you deal with relationships.nn Work has you preoccupied? Imagine you are home physically but your mind is still at work because you feel stress out with the work and the many demands ask of you each day. You may realize that you have difficulty in leaving work at work and so your family lose out in you plugging in with them.nn Passing your responsibility Do you find yourself passing your responsibility hoping your mate or the teachers will do a better job in rearing your children because of your many responsibilities?nn Feeling not important When you do not have time to listen to your children they may feel that it does not matter whether they are at home or not because you do not interact with them. Your children may feel a sense of abandonment.nn Writing on a clean slate Children brain takes time to form and so they have a clean slate with not many memories to rely on and so what you say and how you say it has a great influence on how they form opinions and their behavior.nn Controlling parents If you find that you as a parent only relationship with your children is if they are doing well at school you are hurting your relationship with them, what you are saying is if they do not perform well they will not have your attention. Some children know this and will have bad behaviour because they know this is the only way to get your attention to listen to them. Being a controlling parent does not help to build self esteem in the children it creates children who is afraid to express who or who they are.nn Worried about the future If your mind is focus on the lay offs at the company it is difficult for you to be home mentally listening to your children. Putting aside some money from each pay check can help to create a more secure future for you and your love ones which will help you as a parent feel more at ease and give more time to listen to your children.nn Your contribution You are more important that you think as far as your children is conce and they depend on you to learn and be guided on becoming a contributing part of society and when you are not their to guide them their relationship with the world suffers. Your children do not know what is going on with you for they are relying on you to guide them and when you stay away or not invest time with them they may feel that they are not important or worth your time, this may not be how you feel yet they may interpret this way. Children have a tendency to blame themselves than to think that their parents are just too busy to listen.nn Taking time out When you are coming home and you have had a difficult time at work it is best you either take some time before you enter in your home or take some time out when you reach home before you see your kids that way you will have more attention to give to them.nnConclusion: Listening is an interactive activity where communication is shared. Listening to your children helps you to learn more about how they see and work together in their world.