DWELLING AS CHANGE BRINGS PEACE

We all hold on to that which we love, or that which we feel makes us secure. There is an innate fear of loss and change. It could even be said that our entire lives consist of a struggle to hold everything together.

We want things to be stable, remain exactly as they were.
When change comes each have different reactions to it. Some hold on even harder, try to stop it from happening.

They insist upon trying to control whatever is going on. Others feel crushed and saddened by the loss, feel they cannot go on. When things change, they feel they have failed somehow. Some refuse to move forward again.

These individuals live with the mistaken notion that they are in control of the universe, other people and how things go. Naturally, suffering must accompany that point of view.

There is another way, however, to live fully with the tides of change. That is to allow high tide to be high tide and low tide to be low. It is allowing each moment to be as it is, for someone to love us one moment and withdraw the next. As we see that it is just the next moment happening, and refuse to compare it with the one before, we realize that none of this is Personal. The changing moments, and the changing experiences of those we care for, do not reflect upon us.

If we are sailing in the ocean on a turbulent sea, it is not our fault if a large wave comes rolling over our boat. It is not our success if softer waves help us move along gently.

Let the universe be what it is, and let all those in it be as they are. Demanding stability, expecting only easy sailing itself causes suffering. Forget the suffering. Instead jump into the river and enjoy the ride!