Fear Factor or Face the Facts

Will I let fear keep me away from discussing sexual self control with my teen?

Such a short word, sex really is a complex topic to discuss. It has frightened parents, schools, government and relationships. The fear, it can really make or break you when action is needed.

So, how to manage fear in front of such delicate issue?

Sex is a substantial issue that needs to be properly discussed among relationships and children. Let’s try top deviate first from the topic. Think of some other stuff like potty training, cleaning the kid’s room and the case of doing drugs. Ho did you handle that?

As a child, you probably had some trouble with you potty lessons and you really quite messed up on this. For sure you’ve lied to your parents that your room is neat well in fact it’s the other way around. You have probably been lectured about drugs for a lot of times. And now as a parent, you can use these experiences as your guide to parenting and a basis in building up their core values and beliefs.

These three principles can help in your parenting about sex.

1. Mess really happens and can be fixed.
2. Mishaps and imperfections don’t really mean the end of the world.
3. You have your values to guide you in all parenting aspects.

Through your own childhood experiences, you will be able to handle all the potty sessions with your child and it makes you knowledgeable to give the right advice for your child when it comes to drugs. Those experiences together with your love for your child will give you the courage to talk straight forward about sex.

What’s the fear factor?

1. You’re not expert in relationships since you had it only with you spouse.
2. You don’t know too much about sex since you had it only with you spouse.
3. Your child can find a justification if you told them that you have experimented on it.

Leave a Legacy (Action Step)

1. Don’t be afraid to discuss. No matter what happens, it’s a learning process.
2. Be calm and natural in your conversations regarding your expectations.
3. Provide the tools for the safest behavior for your teen through your experiences. You have all the knowledge and wisdom to guide you in this.