Five Ways to Regain Your Lost Self-Confidence

Nobody can hurt you without your consent. There are manyninstances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimesnyou overcome life's hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed.
Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, butnsometimes your self-confidence gets a beating. However, the pointnhere to remember is that "nobody can hurt you without you
consent."

The problem is not as important as the impact it had on you,nrather the impact that you let the problem create on you. In lifenpain is inevitable but suffering is optional, as the saying goes.
It's purely your choice, and whether you choose to bounce back ornsuffer is entirely your prerogative.

There can be many reasons that your self-confidence is hurt. Younmay have had a bad marriage and now are heading for a divorce.

You were not chosen for your college's football team; you maynhave been laid off. There's definitely a lot of pain involved innany of the situations. But you don't necessarily have to suffer.
You must arise and resolve to get back your confidence.

The following five ways would help you do just that.

1. Look at the brighter side. If you have been laid off, it wouldnbe okay to feel bad about it for a day or two but not more thannthat. Losing a job is a terrible thing, but it does not mean thenend of the world.

Who knows it might be a blessing in disguise. Maybe you have gotnsome time to review your life, get aware of where you are going,nhave a look at your likes and hobbies which you could not developnbecause of pressures of your job. Maybe this is an opportunity tonstart afresh and live your life a new way which is more in syncnwith your abilities and aptitude.

Similarly, a divorce may cause great pain but then you weren'tntoo happy in your marriage either. It probably was just not meantnto be. Now you have a chance to rebuild your life the way younwant it to be.

2. Stop comparing yourself with other people. When we have anproblem we always question god - "oh, god, why me?" Certainly godngave you a lot of rewards as well.

Did you then get up and ask god -"oh god, why me?" That's whatnhuman nature is all about. We complain and remember god when wenare in trouble or else we are too busy with ourselves.

Stop looking at other people who seem too happy and comfortablento you from a distance. Stop comparing their comfort with you
suffering.

This will only frustrate you further. Focus on yourself and makenevery effort you can make to go out whenever you are feelingndown.

3. Self-pity is very addictive and capable of destroying lives.
Instead of indulging in self-pity (though we all do from time tontime), take control of your life and take responsibility for you
actions, learn from your mistakes and make a fresh start.

4. And yeah…don't be bogged down when you hear a "no". A "no" isnsomething which even greats like Edison and Ford, too, had tonface. If you look at them positively, you will find that eachn"no" actually takes you closer to a "yes." It's been reportedntime and time again that Edison conducted more than a thousandnfailed experiments before he actually made an electric bulb! Songet going and take an occasional no in stride.

5. Are you standing in your own way? You will notice that shadowsnare caused when we stand in the path of sunshine. In our lives,ntoo, we cause a lot of shadows by standing in the way of our ownnhappiness. In today's world, it is important to be flexible. Anlot of people will look for a job for months, yet still rejectnwork coming their way because they are not willing to adapt tonsome new job requirements.

Jane, a schoolteacher, was laid off from her job. She kept tryingnfor months to get a job as a teacher while rejectingnopportunities such as taking private tuitions, being a nanny,ndoing copy- editing work as a freelancer. The long wait hurt hernself-confidence even more. Sometimes it is wise to be a littlenflexible and adapt ourselves to new job demands rather than tonlook exactly for what we lost. It helps regain confidence quicklynwhich brings along enough energy to get an even better job in thenfield of your choice!

Don't forget, there is always a way to regain your lost self-nconfidence. You just have to look for it. Because finding isnreserved for those who search. Are you searching for an answer?