HE Said; SHE heard.

HE said "You are gaining weight every day. Your body looks like you swallowed the Pillsbury Doughboy." SHE heard "Oh, God, I have to stop taking this medication. It doesn't matter that it is all that is keeping me alive. I am fat and my husband doesn't love me any more."

Are you laughing? You shouldn't be. It happens way too many times. Men and women don't always communicate even when they are talking. Men think on an entirely different wave length than women. Most women have been brought up to believe that their life and themselves are not complete without the addition of a man. It is sad but true. It happens even in these enlightened times.

Men speak right off the top of their heads. They are not particularly deep thinkers and most of them rarely look beyond the surface when forming relationships. Women spend a lot of time worrying about how they are perceived. Making an offhand remark can devastate the one who hears it.

If a remark can make a woman feel less than she is, she more than likely has little or no self esteem. Can you imagine a woman who thinks so little of herself that she is willing to stop taking the medication that is keeping her alive just so she won't look "fat". I doubt that you believe that the man meant it that way. I am sure he DIDN'T mean it that way. The woman is currently in a physical condition that has her taking many different kinds of medication. She is probably depressed, worried and maybe thinking about what will happen when she dies. Because of the remark she now is seriously doubting her value as a person.

When people are raised to not believe in themselves or be able to count on themselves, they grow up believing that they have to have someone to keep them alive. It is a fact that most of the people who think like this are women. It is the "handsome price" syndrome where the supposed handsome prince comes to whisk the beautiful princess off to "ever after" happiness. Self worth suffers and falls by the wayside unless someone comes along to help that person begin to see the world in another light.

If the remark at the beginning of this article happened to you would you feel like you needed to just go ahead and die or would you have enough self esteem to know that you have a place in this world just like everyone else? Ask yourself this question and if you don't have the best answer, seek assistance from someone who knows how to treat and help this sort of syndrom.