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Good leadership is said to be the product of strength plus intelligence plus early training in accredited schools. The statement is entirely logical, but is it also true? Can an “accredited” leadership program be expected to reach high enough to meet the needs of the future?

According to our research: true leaders have something much more than their “accredited” counterparts -- they have that essential emotional and spiritual grounding that was an integral part of their early training in a good home.

Physical strength and intelligence are indeed valuable assets in life, but an individual’s qualifications for true leadership: strength of character, balance of personality and inherent growth capacity, depend almost entirely upon spending at least the first eight years of their life in a good home. A home wherein:

1. Their parents bore each other a sincere affection and did not over-love them so as to exalt their concept of self-importance.

2. Their personality was not allowed to suffer distortion in consequence of their parents' loveless maneuvering for their confidence and loyalty.

3. They enjoyed that parental love which insures self-confidence and fosters normal/healthy feelings of security.

4. Their parents possessed wisdom as well as love; and their wisdom led them to withhold most forms of indulgence and luxuries.

5. Their parents encouraged them to learn how to live in this world by permitting them to have original experiences in their own right.

6. Their parent’s love for them was balanced: admonished by wisdom and guided by intelligence.

7. Their parents started their training in discipline and mutual respect at an early age, long before bad habits could begin to develop.

Deficits in the development of any of these seven fundamental phases of emotional/spiritual growth as a child, will tend to offset an individual’s growth path as an adult. As we see it, the strength and balance of one’s character and personality are clearly major factors in determining how successful a person will be in all of their personal and professional relations with other people.

Such is the solemn responsibility of parenting; a job that can never be taken lightly, given over to the community, delegated to social workers or assigned to caregivers who lack the capacity to understand a child’s potentials. Such is the groundwork for an individual’s essential logic of successful behavior.

A child's memories of their parents' genuine soothing and support will last for a lifetime. In fact, it is those first soothing memories that are the main source of emotional power that helps them cope with challenges successfully later in life. If parents have done their job, that spiritual strength and those coping skills will become their children's most valuable assets.

All children start having strong emotional feelings early in life. And it is the primary duty of all parents to start helping them understand those feelings as early as possible. Early emotions should never be suppressed. Children need to express their first feelings as strongly as they can, as soon as they can. With their parent's help they will then learn to cope, and that coping exercise will be the key to the emotional health of their later life.
A human child is not like some animals that have been preprogrammed by nature to grow up and survive on their own. Neither is a child a small adult with inherent rights and prerogatives in any way similar to those of a mature and politically enfranchised citizen (notwithstanding the larger human community’s justified and legal conce
for child welfare).

Children must derive their first impressions of the universe from their mother's care; but they are wholly dependent on their earthly father for their first ideas of a spiritual Father. The child's subsequent life is made happy or unhappy, easy or difficult, directly in accordance with an early mental and emotional life that has been conditioned by the relationships of the home.

Nothing is more effective than leading by example. Children will only be permanently impressed by their parent’s living loyalties -- telling them what is good and what is bad is not enough. So too, it is the parents responsibility to ensure that the adults that their children come into contact with can be depended upon to lead by their good example as well.
A nation that has achieved socially stability may provide the material supports needed to raise children, but for them to thrive there must be more. To be successful; sound, faith-based child rearing practices and philosophies must be in place and in practice, in a majority of families. Further, that majority must be firmly connected to all of that nation’s other sustainable practices, policies and social philosophies as well.

It is from this perspective of child rearing that all else must be related: governance, law enforcement, education -- ALL must evolve out of sound child rearing practices. The question that you must ask at every level is: how do these policies, these intentions and the functions of these organizations support the rearing of children, so that those same children can become sustainable individuals on their own and leaders in their own right?

Those of us who can see the better way to build the foundations of the home institution, must begin to examine the public policies, create the family plans and validate the personal philosophies -- that will enable them to find some common education in truth, that will point back to some common source of ideals, that will enable them to balance growth with accountability.

What if a time should come when you have an opportunity to reinvent yourself, or improve your self-image in a way that will reveal a higher path of progress toward achieving your higher goals as a leader? When that day comes, how can you expect to be prepared to make the right decision?
The best way is to start taking a closer look at your early home life now.

Can you go back and fix or repair what went wrong...? Yes you can. But the job will be accomplished much more quickly and permanently, if you work with someone who has had success in examining, understanding and healing many such childhood experiences in their own right.

When it comes to healing memories of the past -- there is no substitute for having an experienced and sympathetic guide.