How do You Communicate Love--or Anything Else?

What Happens to Communication When Subconscious Clues Are
Missing?

What happens when all that is left is a hastily written and nthen hastily read message on a computer screen?

Dire warning ahead!

According to a recent blurb from the Associated press, 71% nof business executives prefer to communicate with each other nand with employees by email.

Five years ago only 13% cited email as the preferred method. n Back then 48% preferred the telephone.

You may have noticed this change where you work. You rarely ntalk to your co-workers anymore. You rarely use the ntelephone to call them. Your dialogues are reduced to ndiscussio
"threads" on a monitor. No sound. No vocal ninflections. No grins or grimaces. Just silly emoticons nnow and then.

Without subconscious clues, communication has to be purely nleft-brained. It comes from the 98% of your brain that uses nwords.

If you don't use words carefully, a whole lot of nmiscommunication occurs. But that is the least of the nproblems from communicating almost exclusively in words on nscreen. Consider the following deadly serious nimplications:

1. Balance

If you spend 40 + hours a week using only your left brain, nyou lose the insight and creativity of your right brain.
You need your whole brain in balance to work and play well.

2. Imagination

Imagination, a right-brain function, is required for problemnsolving. How you imagine your world is how it will be in nmany ways. Einstein imagined riding a beam of light way out ninto the universe. In the process he discovered the theory nof relativity that I wish I could understand.

3. Patriarchy

The more left-brained a society, the more patriarchal and nwar-like it is. It makes sense to the left brain to wage war.
It doesn't make sense to the right brain.

4. Killing

If you kill a human being face to face, you see his nfacial expression. It's a rare person who would not have a gut nreaction to that. If you kill people from a helicopter, you ncan see the victims, too, but from some distance. From an nairplane you would be concentrating with your left brain on nthe machine you are operating and barely notice who dies.
If you program a predator to kill for you, you feel nnothing.

There is great danger in spending 40 + hours a week feeling nnothing. There's great sadness in a career with no friends nof your own.

When subconscious clues are missing so is genuine nbrainstorming, as well as laughter. Emailed humor is ncanned, not shared.

With cell phones you get voice inflection, at least. Yet, nyou know as well as I do that cell use has cut down on "face nto face" "all out there" "this is what you get" "all me, all nyou" communication. Recent reports in the press show cell nphone use in families is causing excessive stress and ndiscord. Psychologists are advising folks to turn the cell nphones off. Save them for emergencies.

Let the cyber bullies beware!

Now, I'm a left-brained writer. I spend a lot of time with nwords. I'm fascinated by language. However, I once watched na group of writers dancing on the same floor as a group of nprofessional dancers. The backs of the writers were as nstraight as their pens. The backs of the dancers moved with nthe music.

Nothing anyone can write says "I love you" better than the nlook in the eyes of one not writing or saying those nwords--just looking and dancing.

May you express your whole mind to somebody today.