How to Deal with the Bridesmaid from Hell

Most women find that planning a wedding is exciting and it can be fun to share the experience with friends as well. Brides often choose bridesmaids that are close friends and expect them to be there helping and offering support as the wedding is planned. Of course, some brides end up dealing with the "bridesmaid from hell," which can make your wedding experience miserable. Often brides feel obligated to choose a bridesmaid because of family, even if they aren't close to them. Often this ends in disaster for the bride.
More than likely you have heard stories from brides that felt they should include someone in their wedding, only to find out how difficult they are to deal with. Sometimes this leads to disdain from the bridesmaid, tantrums during the planning, and being disagreeable throughout the entire process. While sometimes the issues may be minor, they can often turn into big problems that can lead to a ruined relationship.
Going through the planning stage of your wedding is often tough enough. However, adding a bridesmaid that simply won't support you and that makes your life miserable makes it even more difficult. This means you aren't just stressed about the wedding plans, but now you have the extra stress of dealing with that "bridesmaid from hell." Wondering what to do about it? Here are a few suggestions.
If you have a bridesmaid that is not easily pleased with any decisions, sometimes it is a good idea to go with a voting procedure to avoid having that one person change the decisions. Try putting this voting procedure into place as quickly as possible. Usually this will only result in pouting but will help you avoid tantrums, which is definitely a bonus. Just make sure you only use this method if you have at least three bridesmaids.
Another option you may have to consider is to give the "bridesmaid from hell" an ultimatum. Let her know that she can change her attitude or you will have to choose someone else to take her place. While it may seem like a huge task to find someone else to take her place, it won't be near as stressful as dealing with her destructive behaviour on a regular basis. This way you will be more likely to actually enjoy the planning and your wedding day. The bridesmaid will either decide to change her ways or she will leave your bridal party. No matter her choice, it is sure to benefit you. Just make sure you give this ultimatum while you are in private.
Your wedding is supposed to be exciting, fun, and pleasurable. You shouldn't have to deal with frustrating behaviour that adds more stress to your place. After all, the wedding is your wedding. It's not their wedding to plan and at the end of the day, your choices are the ones that matter. Make sure you establish that you are the one making the decisions and you are more likely to avoid having to deal with a difficult bridesmaid in the first place.