“How to Love Irritating People”

It’s easy to love those who are easy to get along with. But what about those who are irritating and want to create havoc in everyone’s life? That’s a very different story.

People that we get long with are easy to love, but those who are irritating need love too. But at the same time they don’t need to be in our life. Right now there are lots of people who look at the negative aspects of life and try to push their way of thinking upon everyone else. They watch the news, think logically about everything, and whenever anyone thinks differently they get upset, argue, and become very loud.

In reality these people have no peace at all, those that are loving and kind have peace within. But those who try to bully their way through life are always trying to get attention and make headway in life, by butting against others. And that means there is no rest for those who need attention. But we can be loving and kind to these irritating people, but it doesn’t mean we have to have them in our life. We can love them from afar, holding them at arms length while praying. And it’s important that we pray that some day they too will see the light and find peace.
It’s important to pray for them because “They Know Not What They Do” as Jesus said on the cross. It’s important to ask for healing for these people so that they too will find what they really want deep down inside— peace. But to have them in your life would do nothing but create havoc and thus everyone becomes totally stressed out.

Take for instance a young woman who had a neighbor who was always being a busy body, she was very loud, always boisterous and yelling, and never considering other people’s feelings and ideas. But the young woman felt pity for this loud person and decided to befriend her, and take her places, and give her coffee, and take her shopping. And no matter where they went, and who they met, this loud lady would drive people away. And soon even the young woman left. Sometimes there is nothing we can do but pray for people. They have their own path to walk, and no one can walk that path for them. They will have there own ups and downs, and hardships in life, and it’s all important for their growth.

So find loving people to be around… kind, generous, giving, caring people who are interesting. And reciprocate their love in every way possible, because these people are there to help you.

Remember there are four types of people that come into our life. One group who are true friends who travel with us throughout many life times, and are always there to help us. Connect to these people they are important. Then there are those who don’t care at all… stay away from these people. Then there are those who only have their agenda on their mind and want to use people… stay away from these people. And then there are those who are full of anger, hatred, and rage, and want to do harm to everyone… stay away from these people also.

When it comes right down to it, it’s important to love everyone. But at the same time it’s important to only bring those people who are loving and kind into our lives. As it’s been said down through the ages “Birds of a Feather Stick Together” and that’s very true. If we hang around irritating people eventually we too become irritating, even though we try very hard not to do so, we will unconsciously pick up those negative traits. Thus who we hang around with rubs off on us… sooner or later.

Cling to those who are loving and kind… thus love and kindness will bloom and spread through the community.

Many Blessings to Everyone

Dr. Paul Haider