***How to Manifest In Your Business

Many entrepreneurs wonder how to manifest in their business and life. There is a wonderful story that explains this concept so beautifully... An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." - A Cherokee legend I remember a particular incident many years ago, before I began my coaching business, when I was driving downtown rushing to complete my errands for the day. I remember noticing the beautiful sunset and the incredible colors in the sky. And yet in spite of the beauty that surrounded me there was an internal voice that said something like, “Sure the sunset is beautiful – but that doesn’t really matter. What really matters is that you are STUCK in your life. How are you ever going to get anywhere? You got real problems to deal with…” And the voice continued on and on – round and round. Ironically at the time I believed this inner voice was just telling me the truth about my current situation. I assumed my inner voice was the voice of reality and reason – even though it was a huge drain on my energy and mental outlook. Another time I was feeling overwhelmed about all the credit card debt my husband and I had accumulated after we were married. And even though we were determined to pay it off I remember wondering how we would ever manage to get rid of it. Both of us had brand new start-up businesses at the time. My mind just couldn’t grasp the possibility that life could be any different from the way it currently was. How to manifest in your business when you’re struggling Many of us hear the voice of the scary wolf howling at our doors. We experience a deep sense of anxiety and impending doom around our current circumstances. Sometimes the pressure is so intense that it wakes us up in the middle of the night. I used to wonder where all this internal pressure and anxiety was coming from. If our beliefs remain unexplored we will likely find ourselves believing that our external circumstances are causing the pressure and fear. We find ourselves worrying about finding a job or making enough money to get through the next month. We have very real external circumstances that we’re dealing with, and we think – that is what’s causing the pressure and stress after all! I remember working with a client who experienced a dramatic breakthrough when she realized that SHE was the one who was creating the stress and pressure that she experienced around money. She had thought that her current circumstances were creating the pressure. In fact, she became aware that for most of her adult life she experienced pressure and fear that she wasn’t doing it right, or doing it good enough when it came to money as well as other aspects of her life. If we are experiencing anxiety or tension it’s a sure sign that we are feeding the scary wolf. What I’ve discovered is that whatever circumstance I am facing, I can ask in the midst of it, which wolf am I feeding? Is it the wolf of joy and peace or the wolf of anger, fear, guilt, and inferiority? What I’ve noticed is that the fearful wolf is very sneaky and clever. I mistakenly take his voice to be the voice of reality… of truth – as if he were an impartial reporter of “just the way things are.” His voice might sound like this—“People just aren’t hiring in today’s economy… It’s not possible to increase my income this month…I’ll never find my dream job.” Which wolf are you feeding? It’s one thing to hear the voice of the scary wolf. It’s another thing to feed it. When I feed it I am agreeing with the fearful wolf’s reality. I know this when I experience fear, resentment or anger. So what can you do? It’s not a matter of getting rid of the fearful wolf’s voice. That just creates resistance. It’s an opportunity to explore what your believing and which wolf you are about to feed. It becomes an ongoing practice, a discipline – the personal path of the warrior. So now when I hear the cry of the scary wolf, I stop and identify the voice. I am called to create in each moment a new possibility – I can choose to feed the wolf of fear or the wolf of peace, love and joy. Either way it’s my choice. The one I choose to feed is the one who will win. How to manifest in your business through bite size Action Steps 1. Get honest about your current “reality” or “truth.” What is the reason you’ve been giving yourself about why you can’t achieve something that you really want right now? Which wolf are you feeding? 2. Ask yourself how your current “reality” might really be resistance to manifesting what you want (remember this may require a huge stretch on your part – because that’s the nature of subjective reality – it seems so, well real!). 3. Ask yourself what would happen if your “reality” didn’t have to come to pass. 4. Notice how you feel when you make this mind shift. You will notice that you are left with opportunity. From this space be willing to take the next step toward what you want instead of putting it off. Be willing to see that you don’t need to wait any longer - and that your current “reality” is merely resistance in disguise.