I'm An Adult Ophan

I am an adult orphan. I'm not anyone's child anymore. Both my parents have died. There is no smooth transition from being a child in the family to becoming an orphan. One day you have parents and the next day you don't. It's quite a revelation to know that there is no one to approve or disapprove of your actions anymore-- only you. You are it!

It is also hard to face that I now represent the older generation. I was the oldest child and the oldest grandchild in my family. I am now the oldest adult. It is my duty to carry on my family's values, traditions and cultural roots. It is an awesome responsibility to make certain that the inter-generational links, from my great-grandparents to my children and their children, are never severed.

For those of you whose parents have passed on or are in ill health:
Treasure your parents. Make the time to spend it with them. Listen to their conce
s. Value what they have to tell you. Provide them with special things that they need-like reading them a book or newspaper. Have no regrets.
Maintain an inter-generational link. Your children should hear stories about their grandparents and great-grandparents. They should experience the food of their ancestors. You should share pictures of your parents and grandparents when they were young. You should discuss how their ancestors arrived in this country.
Record an oral history of your family members and provide it to your children.
Every day, think about a wise saying or direction your parents once gave you that made a difference in your life.
Carry a memento of your parent(s) to keep them close to your heart.

It is important for us to do the best we can while our parents are still alive and to honor them after their passing. I may feel like an orphan but then I remember there was a time when I was a part of a very special family. No one can take my memories away.

I choose to write about my memories in order to help others through the pain of losing their parents and as a result, it will ease my pain.nn