Is He Really Thinking, “Nothing??”

Aloha!

Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Here we are. Deal with it. Love it up, even! The way to deal with and appreciate it, especially for more spiritually-based women, is to realize that while we’re all from the same planet, our spiritual growth processes occur differently. How?

Women’s spiritual development advances in a spiral pattern. Round and round and round we go. Where does it stop? It doesn’t, nor do we want it to. Women experience multiple levels of growth, multiple processes, and other pleasurable multiples that render the female experience more complex than that of a man.

Men, on the other hand, traverse their spiritual development in a linear fashion, in alignment with the male manner of thinking. A, B, C; 1, 2, 3. Straight up and down. While that manner of development is less complex, that does not make it less spiritual. The male process entails more focus, less distraction from emotional reactions & projections, and is frequently more solution-oriented. “Get ‘er done!”

BTW, this viewpoint can be gender-reversed. This information is offered with the intention of expanding the perspective for women who feel frustrated with their perception that their man is not growing, or not growing as fast as she is. He IS growing, but he is doing it HIS way. That might look like sitting on the couch flipping channels, but that’s what works for him. Give him some space and he’ll be right there for you. On the couch, but he’s there. He’ll get up when the time is right for him to get up, not when you think he should. Don’t should on him. Ok?

So, ladies, when you ask him, “What are you thinking?” and he replies, “Nothing,” believe him. That’s a strength, not a sign of spiritual laziness. Consider it his calm place, his own personal zen. Women take a while to get to that place, frequently needing to wind down from a launch-sequence of emotional reactions & projections to events that either already occurred or haven’t happened yet. Admire his ability not to go down those rabbit holes. Support his calm by giving him his space. Emotional space as well as physical space if that’s what he wants. No need to take that personally; he is simply being a man.

Again, this information is not intended to force-fit anyone into specific gender roles, but rather to expand understanding and perspective. The complaints I’ve heard over the decades, from spiritually-based women about their men, all fall within these parameters. Ladies, that’s a control issue. Ease u. Relax. There’s nothing wrong with him. That his response is, “Nothing” when you ask him what he is thinking is a good thing. Enviable, even, which trumps control as far as emotional issues go, yes? Enjoy it.

Wishing you balanced appreciation in all your relationships!

Miracles and blessings,
Dr. Renee