Is There Any Benefits To A Rebound Relationship?
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Your first reaction might be to answer the above questions with a resounding "No!"
However, before you do, lets define what a "Rebound relationship" is and why people engage in them.
If you have broken up with the love of your life and either one or both of you fall into a "rebound relationship", can the relationship be recaptured?
Lets first define what a "rebound relationship" is:
It is a relationhip started to to get over the former partner. Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They are used in an effort to help people move on from a real love.
And therein may be the very key to mending the relationship.
At this point it does not matter why you broke up in the first place, that will, and must be addressed later, after you are back together again.
It doesn't even matter who actually called the relationship off.
All that matters is that you had a real, loving and respectful relationship that has been broken.
Virtually all relationships founded on real love has the potential
to be reconciled!
One of the two obvious benefits of the rebound relationship is:
(1) that the ex partner is usually still focused on what went wrong in the broken relationship.
(2) the new person chosen for this relationship is most often quite the opposite
For example: If you were a considered a "good guy or girl" someone considered more "risque" could be chosen.
The fact that you are actually still focusing on each other can be seen as a good thing, because the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference!
If you objectively observe the new partner that either of you choose for this new relationsihp you might discover a clue to what might have been missing in your former, now broken relationship.
This could give you both the necessary time to explore and make conscious self-improvements.
Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, the longer it continues and the more comparisons that are made with the rebound partner the more you will begin to appreciate and miss each other.
That is why neither of you should put pressure on the other to end the rebound relationship.
Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:
* Don't try to convince him/her that you are the love of their life. Let them discover this on their own.
* Don't apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you're sorry. Once. But move on. You hopefully, by this point, know the real reason that you love each other
* Don't make unreasoned or unreasonable promises to change. Promise instead to continue to be restpectful and supportive of the other partner's wishes
* Don't try to make him/her see that it wasn't your fault. They will come to appreciate that over time - but only if you haven't made him/her invest energy in defending their position that it was your fault.
* Never, ever beg (remember you are equal partners in a loving and respectful relationship
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, they are usually
in a rebound relationship. Don't despair.
The rebound relationship could be a sign that he/she is still in love with you.
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