Keep It Open At The Top

I love what Sonia Choquette says about our planetary evolution. She says, “We are now going from homo sapiens to homo spiritus.” The evidence to support that statement is all around us. Have you seen the number of spiritual groups on Facebook, for example? Just five years ago, we were still fairly quiet about our new thoughts. Now, many people freely share and whole heartily accept the concept that we are indeed spiritual beings having this human experience.

Holding this notion is by far the surest path to psychic development. It is when we release our attachments to our social conditioning and concrete ideas about our physical relationship to the world that we begin to open our minds and hearts to the mystery and magic of our wondrous existence. And when we open ourselves up, we create space for new information – divine information that comes from our Higher Selves, Spirit Guides, Angels, Source.

I have a favorite saying that I tell myself when feeling stuck or stubborn about how a thing is “supposed” to be: “Keep it open at the top.” Whenever I hear the words “supposed to” or “should” I know that I’m being resistant, blocked and that my ego is rearing its self-righteous head. When I find myself in this mode, I know that I’ve been given an opportunity to learn something… to grow. We have a choice in this instant of self-awareness. We can be right and become victimized and angry or we can open up and learn something about ourselves.

Here’s a personal example that I’d like to share with you. Just recently, I was walking home from the grocery store with three heavy bags. I live at the top of a hill, so this trek can be quite a workout. As I’m headed up the sidewalk, two young men are headed down. They are engrossed in conversation and don’t seem to notice me at all. As we got nearer to one another, I realized that if one of us doesn’t move over, there is going to be a collision. At that moment, I thought to myself “they should move, since I’m a woman twice their age and I’m going uphill… that would be the polite thing to do. And I’m tired of always being the one who makes room, yielding to everyone else. I’m not budging.” You can guess what happened next. I pretended not to see them and I slammed right into one of the young men, almost dropping my groceries. Indignantly, I said to him, “Gee thanks!” His response was, “Don’t you think you should say excuse me? ” I was a full blown martyr at this point and said, “You guys are double-wide! You should have moved for me. You’re taking up the entire sidewalk!”

I held onto this one for about two weeks. As the scenario replayed in my mind, I knew there was a lesson to be learned, but for the life of me, I couldn’t see it. I made up my mind that these two young men were just plain rude. Then, just last night, I picked up one of my old favorite books, “You Can Heal Your Life,” by Louise Hay and turned right to the chapter “Resisting Change.” Louise poses the question, “Why do you continue to attract these situations to yourself?” I kept thinking about the sidewalk incident, and while reading my eyes stopped on one word: Invisible. A-ha! That’s it… one of my “lessons” in this life that continues to recur is that I feel angry and victimized when people do not acknowledge me. I have verbally referred to myself as the “6 foot invisible woman.” Another issue that came to surface is my attachment to the rules of politeness. Is it any wonder that I have attracted these situations to myself?

After a short discovery process, I realized that my invisibility issue stemmed from growing up in a chaotic household where everybody else’s drama trumped mine. I was the independent quiet one who observed the insanity around me and moved out of the way when necessary. I felt ignored, unimportant and unloved. I get it (insert heavenly music here)! Okay, so I still have some childhood conditioning to replace. Here is what I have replaced it with: I am wise in moving out of the way of collisions, chaos and drama. I am blessed with acute observation skills and I can see what is before me because I am present and grounded. I am like water: soft and flowing. Is it easy for me to move and adjust myself so that I stay in a flow of peace. Whether people acknowledge me or not has no effect on my self worth. I am compassionate and understanding that other people are occupied with their own thoughts and that everybody has their own definition for politeness. I forgive myself for being stubborn and righteous and am so grateful for this lesson! (And yes, I apologize to the man I slammed into.)

By keeping it open at the top, we receive exactly what we need to learn the lessons that we came here for. What recurring situations are showing up in your life? Believe me, they are here to serve you!

Have fun on your journey.
Charlene