Keeping the Spark Alive in Marriage

Keeping the Spark Alive in Your Marriager
If you ever find yourself in an airplane and suddenly, the air-mask falls from the ceiling; do you know what to do? An announcement breaks the silent fear of everyone around and commands that everyone must secure their air-masks immediately. If you are travelling with an infant, your default response is to secure the mask on your child first. You will be interrupted by the steward and asked to secure the mask on you first and then on the child. Why? Simply, because if you are not safe and secure; you will lose the ability to help your loved one.
This analogy sums up the underlying truth about your marriage and your other obligations. What happens in the course of life and especially during the gruesome years of child rearing, of keeping up a career, of taking care of elderly parent, and of running a household? We lose ourselves in the routine and taking care of each other becomes secondary. During this phase of life, most couples forget to nurture their own relationship. As we all have a varying degree of need for attention, some individual may develop a silent ache deep into their psyche because of the lack of intimacy with their partner. Some may develop relationships outside their marital confines. Most individuals don’t communicate about this silent ache. One may find several genuine excuses not to be able to pay the needed attention to the partner just in an attempt to justify one’s behavior. That’s a fatal mistake.
Silently, couples begin to feel the lack of attention from the spouse and slowly, it becomes a second nature to them as a couple. By doing so and by accepting “status quo”, they have sacrificed something that is very sacred and vital to a healthy marriage. We are on a marital journey. Unlike, in an airplane, we have to remind ourselves often when to put oxygen masks on. Unfortunately, unaware of the impact on marriage, we just don’t pay attention to the security, safety and health of our relationship; and then we regret all lifelong for those missed opportunities.
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