Letter to a Teenage Daughter

Dear Daughter,

You are a wonderful person and your mother and I think the world of you. It will not be long before you leave home to make your way in the world. Can I please give you some friendly advice? Here are some things that I think you should never do.

1. Never Despise Yourself.
You are great and capable of achieving great things so believe in yourself. When things go badly, never stop believing. Some girls get depressed, blame themselves and lose self-esteem. All sorts of problems can follow.

2. Never Get Obsessed with your Appearance.
We think you look great (though some of the outfits you wear worry us!). Please be happy with the person you are and the body you have. Eat sensibly, take exercise and be healthy. Some girls become obsessed with losing weight or getting the perfect shape. You look fine.

3. Never Live Beyond Your Means.
Throughout life try to keep your spending within your income and so save a little. Avoid getting into debt if possible. There are some exceptions - like getting a mortgage to buy a house - but generally if you can live within your means you will avoid all sorts of problems.

4. Never Compromise Your Personal Safety.
Never put yourself at serious risk. This means that you cannot trust people until you really know them and that sometimes you have to avoid things that look like they might be fun. Never get drunk or take recreational drugs. Unfortunately there are some malevolent people out there and it is best not to take undue risks.

5. Never Get Involved with a Married Man.
There are plenty of great single men out there. Don’t get entangled with a married man no matter how attractive he is - it will end in your tears.

6. Never Give Less Than Your Best.
We are very proud of what you have accomplished so far. You should be proud too. Keep doing well. Keep trying your hardest at everything you do. No one can ask for more than that.

7. Never Forget that Your Parents Love You.
Whatever happens in life, your family will still be your family. Whatever difficulties you encounter you can always talk to us and we will try to help. We are here for you.

With love

Dad