Lost Love: It's Predestined, You Have Many Soul Mates & You'll Love Again

Losing a loved one is a heart wrenching experiencento say the least.

Although finding the strength to move on with one’snlife after such an experience takes time, it can bendone.

Gratitude is wonderful for helping to overcome grief. Bengrateful for the love you had, the experiences you shared,nwhat you currently have in your life, and what will be innthe future.

The closer the connection, the more difficult thenseparation, but it helps to realize that everyone hasnmore than one soul mate. Some are more compatiblenthan others, but all are meant to enter and leave you
life when they do, meaning all relationships appear tonbe spiritually contracted, including the length of timento be spent together. Expectations of “growing old”nwith a partner are the norm in our society, but innmany cases it’s not meant to be.

As we wrote in our book Your Love Life and Reinca
ation,npublished in 2002, almost all relationships include karmicnties. In other words, one person owes the other, they bothnowe each other and their connection is necessary for growthnand payback, or a similar situation exists. Perhaps there isnunfinished business or the two souls agreed, beforeninca
ating, to reunite in order to learn some lessons ornaccomplish a certain goal.

For someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, wenwould like to suggest a new outlook. In our Nov. 10th,
2006 column titled Redefining How You Perceive New
Love Interests, we recommend viewing love interestsnas opportunities for growth and allowing them to benwhat they’re meant to be, rather than all or nothing, ornassuming they’ll be “the one” for life. Such an outlookneases the difficulty of accepting what is and what is tonbe, that which you can’t change.

Loss can be devastating, but at least with thisnperspective, it can be easier to digest when it doesn’tnwork out as it “should have.” Although that seems tondeflate romantic notions of “forever,” know that lovenreally is forever on a spiritual level, not on this physicalnplane. It’s helpful to view soul progression in lifetimes,nnot just one existence, as each soul has an agenda thatnstretches throughout time.

That brings us to the popular phrase, “love of you
life.” Perhaps “love of your life so far” or “one of thenloves of your life” are much more appropriate sincenyou haven’t lived your entire life and met all thenpotential love interests yet. This way of thinking doesnnot diminish what you had with past loves since everynrelationship is different, and you may have a lot tonlook forward to no matter what your age.

Is a lost love destined? Is feeling a deep sense of lossna natural part of personal fate? We believe so, sincenthe comprehensive astrology and numerology chartsnclearly indicate unions and separations, among othe
circumstances. Most experience the loss of love at onentime or another. It may be someone they didn’t knownthat well, someone with whom they were involvednfor years, or even someone they are still involved withnbut the spark has died for one or both.

From a spiritual perspective, feeling a sense of lossnserves any number of purposes, including, but notnlimited to the following: it allows you to appreciatenmore what you had (and will have again); it allowsnyou to experience first-hand the cyclical nature of life;nand in some cases, it may even allow you to balancenthe scales of karma for the loss others experiencedndue to your actions in the past. But don’t feel guiltynover the possibility of past life negative actions asnlong as you are “doing the right thing” in allnsituations during this life.

For those who lost a love that may have seemed liken“the one,” even though you never had the chance toncome together, this type of love loss can also benupsetting, especially if there is a strong past lifenconnection. Perhaps you met and spent time togethe
at work or on vacation. Although the connection hasnrun its course, you still think about the person a lot.
However, if you had spent more time together, younmay have realized that the person only representednwhat you wanted or felt you needed in your love life.
“What could have been” may have been more of anfantasy. The time spent together was all that wasnmeant to be, for now, maybe, in part, to furthe
establish a link to be continued on a much deepe
level the next time around. Remember, the spiritualnreasons for the events in your life may seem illogical,nand the fated outcome is often at odds with plans,nexpectations, and hopes.

For those who lost a very compatible and rewardingnrelationship, past life regression is a great tool tonretu
to a lifetime where you were also together inna loving relationship, and even to a future lifetimen(through future progression) when you’ll have thenopportunity to love each other again. It will also helpnto calm your mind and heart to realize this lifetime isnjust a part of a long tapestry of love.

For those who had to leave a relationship due tondangerous circumstances, such as abuse, alcoholismnor drugs, but still cannot seem to let go of the person,ncut the spiritual ties that bind. Consciously and visuallynsurround yourself with White Light, cut any cordsnconnecting you and the other person, and fill the emptynplaces where the cords were with White Light. Do thisndaily until you feel the effects and ask for spiritualnhelp in the process, from whomever you pray to. Let gonof them and any anger the best you can. Forgiveness willnheal you and help you move on.

Every relationship is different and even thoughngrieving for a lost love isn’t easy, know that therenmay be a future love
waiting in the wings for anrelationship that is even better than you have eve
imagined. But dwelling on “what could have been”nor your loss will not help to usher in a happie
future.

Also know that, based on past life regression research,nyou have likely loved hundreds of times or more innhundreds, if not thousands (or many more) of past lives.
It’s also possible that you will be with that person inna future life, in one way or another, when the timingnis better for both of you. In the mean time, let go ofnthis person the best you can. This will not release thenmemory of them from your life or the possibility of beingntogether again, but remove them as a potential block innyour current love life.

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