How To Overcome The Biggest Obstacle To Permanently Ending An Addiction.

The biggest obstacle to a person really transforming their life is: not wanting to have a loss of spontaneity. People have a tendency to like to do what they feel to do and when they feel to do it (even if that means compulsive things like binge eating, drinking, succumbing to peer pressure, taking drugs, gambling, etc.).

That’s understandable because in one sense that is the easiest way to live… freely flowing with and responding to our feelings, people and life without always having to second guess our responses. But I say “in one sense” because in the final analysis it isn’t the best overall way to live because of the problems that spontaneity can bring. Living a life led by spontaneously following our whims and succumbing to the pressures in the world can diminish the overall quality of our life and often leads to major problems, including (in the case of alcohol and drugs) divorce, health problems, financial problems, and even death. And this is in addition to the immediate negative physical and experiential repercussions that often accompany drug and alcohol use.

But I’ve come to find out that all inner problems are resolvable, and that we even come out MUCH the better for investing time into working on eliminating them. And the loss of spontaneity during that work is only temporary. That is, the harder you work on yourself, the quicker you get back being able to trust your spontaneity to not lead you into bad experiences or painful repercussions in your life.

Now, what I just said in that last paragraph is predicated on having the right technology for how to eliminate problems and knowing exactly what to transform to. The statement in the last paragraph was a simple one to make, but it is not one that most of the psychology community, nor most of the personal growth methods I’ve been deeply involved in can back up. But the results in the last paragraph I guarantee the results in the last paragraph will happen in a new addiction recovery program I’ve developed.

My personal story is, as a professional musician and former member of some top name bands, including Sly and the Family Stone (recently named one of the top 10 bands of all time by MSNBC and specially honored at the 2006 Grammies), I've lived and worked around a lot of drug and alcohol abuse. For many years I myself regularly used drugs and alcohol, at first out of curiosity and peer pressure, then later to fit in with my peers, and to try to elevate my moods and mask my inner and outer problems and perceived or real personal deficiencies. Plus, after a while it just became a bad habit.

But that approach to life eventually ruined my marriage and nearly cost me my sanity. For many years I went from psychiatrists to counselors and different programs trying to find the answers to my alcohol, drug, life and inner problems. But despite years of therapy, I ended up at one point in so much pain that I just wanted to end it all and decided to commit suicide.

Fortunately that didn't happen. Instead, what I ended up discovering not only gave me the strength to stop all addictions... it turned my life into one that has joy, great purpose, and deep fulfillment. And that has been going on for 24 years now, which is why I call myself an EX-alcoholic and EX-drug user, not a "recovering" one. Drugs and alcohol are distant memories that I wouldn't let invade the great life that I now experience... not because I'm afraid to use them, but because I just don't like their effects. Compared to my degree of sensitivity now, they are a "downer".

So you can see why I'm excited to share what I've found with others, because I know that this same method can work for anybody... regardless of circumstances. I say that because when I started the method in this program, I was weak, alone, in pain, broke, shy, living in a bad neighborhood, and I had tried nearly everything else.

It’s not that hard to get motivated to want to transform if you recognize that although you’ve been in charge of your life so far (even when you chose to let others influence you), it hasn’t worked as well as you’d like. Let me describe a potential problem though after you feel that motivation and then commit to wanting to do something about it.

Once we recognize a “need” and decide we want to satisfy it, we then move into “hope” that there will be a way to do that. That is true for many types of needs (e.g. finding a good mate or a good job or a good personal growth method).

The next challenge is, where are we going to place our hope? It is typical in this world to place our hope in the “recognized” authorities and practitioners in the world. And that recognition is often based on the letters after their name. But we shouldn’t let our hope and need cause us to be too hasty in making a decision to put our needs in the hands of others.

To make good choices in this respect there are two things to consider: nn(1) Look at the results of the profession and method that we are about to trust to show us how to resolve our problem. I don’t see the social statistics or addiction rates in the world improving (and in fact they reflect a great lack of success). So that should make a person cautious about trusting the commonly endorsed methods. nn(2) Has the person you are going to trust for help actually satisfied the same need that you are trying to satisfy? That is, I used to take singing lessons and wondered why I wasn’t making progress…until I recognized that none of my teachers could sing well themselves. But like I just told in my story, I have resolved a long-time problem of addiction and know exactly what it takes. And that is what motivated me to put the program together that I did and even guarantee it…because I want to see others get the great benefits that I did.

The additional benefit of my program is that it also creates a very high quality life… even much better than a person’s pre-addiction life…and in fact the best life possible for any person. Plus my program costs less than one visit to a therapist or counselor. It guides a person through a very benefit-rich process of life transformation via a step-by-step process with assignments. Therefore it can elevate the quality of anybody’s life. This one small guaranteed investment is the best program I know that has the ability to greatly elevate the quality of the rest of a person’s life and eliminate problems and protect them from future problems.nn© 2006 Lighthouse Publishing, www.AddictionFreeForever.comnn