Marriage Issues

Are you tired of the same old marriage issues? Do you have the marriage blues? Then quit! Are we suggesting you get a divorce? No, when we say quit, we are not suggesting you get a divorce. As far as the turbulence you're experiencing in your marriage, there isn't a couple on earth who hasn't experienced marriage issues, it's a normal part of married life. But sometimes when we experience problems in marriage, we tend to look outward rather than inward. That is, we see our spouses as the source of our unhappiness. On the other hand, we have a huge blind spot when it comes to our own short comings. No doubt, you're reading this page because you're searching the internet for a simple solution. So, what is the solution to your marriage problem? Perhaps the solution is Christian marriage counseling. Many couples in the body of Christ have had wonderful success using this form of intervention. But even with marriage counseling, you must be prepared to roll up your sleeves and go to some difficult places -- are you ready for that? In addition, you must be so tired of where you are that you are ready to quit... Quit being selfish: Marriage is about the needs of two people; it's not all about you. Quit focusing on the negative: Put your marriage issues in perspective. Your spouse is likely not a monster; otherwise, you wouldn't have gotten married. Ask yourself what it was that attracted you to them in the first place? Now begin focusing on their good qualities. Quit putting negative words into the atmosphere: That is, always complaining about what your spouse is or is not. The Bible says that the power of life and death are in the tongue. In other words, your spoken words carry a lot of weight -- so speak life! Quit thinking negatively: Remember this, everything you see and touch in this world began as a thought in somebody's mind. So, if you are constantly thinking negatively about your marriage, than that's what's going to manifest. Instead, be transformed by the renewing of your mind. If you think about a thing long enough, soon that thing will become a reality. Quit doubting God's ability: Is there anything to hard for God? Absolutely not! He is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. That means He knows everything, is everywhere at all times, and has all power. Surely He can handle your situation. Quit talking to your friends and family about your marriage issues: You see, when you have forgiven your spouse and moved past the situation, your friends and family will not forget so easily. They may likely begin treating your spouse differently. If you need to talk, talk to your spouse. If you need professional intervention, talk to a counselor. Quit expecting your spouse to be perfect: Are you perfect? Need we say more? Quit looking back and begin looking forward: the Bible says, "forgetting those things which are behind and pressing forward". Leave the past in the past where it belongs. You will never be successful at building a better future if you spend the majority of your time looking backwards. Quit rehearsing the problem and start rehearsing the solution: They say "practice makes perfect". That is to say, you will master that which you do repeatedly. It doesn't matter if the action is honorable or not; if you do it long enough you'll become an expert. Don't become an expert complainer. Practice solutions and become the master of resolution instead. Quit taking your spouse for granted: Don't belittle the positive aspects of your spouse's character. Your spouse is valuable in God's sight. If you don't recognize their value, someone else will. Quit placing conditions on your love: Real love, that is, the love of God, is unconditional. God loves you through the issues of life and so you must love your spouse -- even through marriage issues. So, are you ready to quit?