My Knight in Shining Armour

The idea of a Knight coming to save the damsel in distress might make a great movie but as one woman put it, in reality every Knight comes with a horse and a stable to clean out!

I remember a time when I lived as if I was waiting to be rescued. I felt that I needed someone in my life in order to be happy and I would not attempt to do anything on my own because it seemed boring without a man.
There are lots of women who think the same or are afraid that if they do find happiness and contentment they will change their minds about wanting a relationship. Or they believe that if they do get busy enjoying life they will be too busy to meet someone!

It is true that some women decide to stay single once they develop personal contentment but that is a path they are creating that is right for them. I think the change in feelings is more to do with what happens when we take ownership of our personal happiness. The desperate feelings to find love start to dissipate and are replaced with a healthy desire instead.

Secondly, would you feel inspired by a bored man who was hoping you could make him happy? The right guys don’t want to be rescuers; they are looking for someone who can enjoy life with them. This does not mean you have to be out every night to prove you have a life. It just means that while you are waiting you are not going to make a guy responsible for bringing you happiness but are going to make your life enjoyable now.

When people take ownership of their happiness and personal fulfillment this way, I believe it actually makes them better qualified for love. Couples need to do things together but they still need time to enjoy separate pursuits and having ownership over your happiness means you won’t have an expectation that it is your partner’s duty to make you happy.

If you feel bored, think about what you need to do to change that. Life has too much to offer you to limit it to only being fun with a lover. Get out of your rut today and do something amazing for yourself. Decide that you are going to fill your life with things that you have long wanted to do and which bring you joy and happiness.

Need some help creating an interesting and fulfilling life? Joanne, your personal Life Coach, can help you formulate your goals and help you put them to into action.