Ombivalence

OMBIVALENCE: as a state of mind and body; a philosophy. A statement of personal reality; I am ombivalent.

Ombivalent: (ombi-valent) pronounced om-biv-a-lent
ombi ( from the Swahili meaning “request”)
om (aum) of the Hindu; representing the divine energy united in its three elementary aspects: creation, preservation and liberation.
valent ( from valence which is derived from the Latin valentia, meaning "strength")

Om-biv- a- lence: requesting strength, from yourself, from the universe; and then accepting that strength and living it. Being unconditionally indifferent to the societal, cultural, and personal demands placed upon oneself by others; not being controlled. Being absolutely comfortable with who you are.
Although there are many control devices used in common society, such as fear and religion, the most profound is the common use of sex as a control device. It is subliminally programmed into people starting as small children watching their parents manipulate and control each other with sexual innuendoes. As a child grows and begins their education on the television the use of sex as a control device is further programmed into them. As the normal flow of hormones begins within the child, the societal emphasis on the need for sexual prowess and promiscuity serves to deepen the program.
People judge themselves, and others, by their degree of sexual activity. People are categorized by sexual attraction: heterosexual, bisexual, gay, lesbian, asexual
Even the definitions of asexual indicate that this particular state of being is considered an aberration from the ‘normal’ : (1. The absence of a sexuality, most notably in humans. Some may just not be sexuallly attracted to others, others may completely lack a sex drive or sexual desires. Common misconceptions are that such people have suffered sexual abuse, are emotionally frigid, are closet homosexuals, masturbate ten times a day, are too ugly to get in a sexual relationship or are impotent. This, more often than not, does not apply.
An asexual person is defined as one who is not interested in or does not desire sexual activity, either within or outside of a relationship. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy, which is the willful decision to not act on sexual feelings. Asexuals, while not physically sexual-type folks, are none the less quite capable of loving, affectionate, romantic ties to others.
Perhaps what is being defined is a person who has found ombivalence.
EXAMPLES of control:
“Oh my god, I (you) haven’t had sex in ? days, weeks, years?” “Hey man, are you getting any?”
“Was that good for you honey?” “Maybe my organs not big enough, or long enough (or tight enough).”
“You’re going to sleep on the couch tonight!”
Attempted use of the control device: “Hey big boy, wanna come over to my place for a… cup of coffee?” Reply: “No thanks, I can have all the coffee I want right here.” Message: I don’t neeeeed what you are trying to control me with.