Does "Mass" Dating Work In Finding Mr. or Ms. Right?

Mass dating, for the purpose of this article, encompasses dating services, singles' ads on the web and in newspapers and magazines, and other services and venues specifically designed for singles to meet other singles and "find" each other.

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As I said in last week's newsletter, there are many great reasons to start a mass dating campaign even if none of these reasons is finding the right person for you. But, can and does mass dating lead to meeting your Mr. or Ms. Right? This is an interesting question, given that many hundreds of dating services on the web are betting on the fact that it can and does. They are also betting on the fact that you believe it can and does.

The truth is some people do meet their mates while mass dating. The question is what distinguishes these people from millions of others who try and try, and yet fail to meet their mate the mass dating way.

As you have probably guessed, I have a theory about why most people fail to meet the right person on the Internet, doing the personal ads, dating services, etc. It goes like this: "The person who is looking for a mate will not be able to find him or her."

Does that sound crazy, perhaps cruel, incomprehensible? And yet, chances are, you, the reader, are single and have been looking for a mate, perhaps for a long time and have not found him or her.

This is why finding your Mr. or Ms. Right by mass dating will almost always lead to failure. By nature of your participation, you are looking for a mate.

Then, why do some people succeed at finding their mates in mass dating venues? Some very small percentage of people just get lucky. But, my theory is most of these people are successful because they are only trying mass dating for fun. They are not investing their hopes and dreams in the activity. Most likely, these people also have fulfilling lives, are happy and have a great community with wonderful friends. They are more likely not even "looking" for a mate.

How do you find your Mr. or Ms. Right? First and most importantly, create a great life and a great community. Make sure your life is not a life that looks great on the outside, yet does not feel great. Make sure it is a truly wonderful life.

Then, stop looking for a mate. One day, when you least expect it, you will meet someone nice. There will be a mutual interest in spending time together. You will start dating, having fun, getting to know each other. Eventually, you will discover that you have been spending time with your Mr. or Ms. Right all along.

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