Red Flags of a Depressing Relationship

A romantic relationship is meant to be the ultimate source of a person’s joy, hope, and inspiration. However, not all relationships are destined to end in happily ever after. Unfortunately, there are romantic relationships that can cause someone’s depression.
When a relationship has gone sour and awry, depression starts to set in. No matter how hard you try to keep the misery at bay, it always finds a way to sneak in your life like a thief creeping in the middle of night. Most of the time, when depression sets in a relationship, you cannot find a way to stop the negative thoughts from spiraling. You start to become physically, mentally, and emotionally unavailable for your partner. As the depression envelops you, you prefer to isolate yourself from your partner.
Although you know that it is a bad habit to dwell on negative ideas about life, love, and relationship, you still cannot help yourself especially when you start to feel that the relationship you are in is doomed to fail sooner or later.
Depression in a relationship can make you feel that there is a grey cloud always looming threateningly above your head. You try so hard to wave the negative thoughts away, but like a stubborn kitten, they keep on coming back to get you.
However, what is sadder is the fact that there are a lot of people who seem clueless that their relationships are making them depressed. Here are some of the red flags to know if your toxic relationship is causing your depression.

You Blame Each Other when Problems Occurr
When you and your partner encounter a problem in your relationship, you tend to accuse each other of ruining each other’s lives and ignoring your needs. Most of the time, you keep a list of grievances against your partner in your head, and bring them up again when you fight with your partner. Instead of working together to solve a problem in your relationship, either of you becomes selfish or is not more than willing to help. In simpler terms, when an issue hits your relationship hard, you drive each other crazy instead of sticking together and working at your relationship issues as a team. You blame each other that you become obsessed about keeping tabs of the times your partner has done you wrong.

You Manipulate Each Otherr
When you make personal decisions, your partner always tries to control you, and vice versa. You both cannot make decisions on your own because you manipulate each other in such a way that both of you have lost the power to make informed choices. You control your partner in what he does with his time and in choosing his friends. Likewise, your partner interferes with your finances and travel plans with your family and friends. When you both lose the power to make individual decisions, it is a sure sign that your relationship can be depressing because you both have lost your individuality. Even when you try not to be interdependent with each other, you cannot avoid controlling each other's life choices.

You Always Have the Need to Be Rightr
Sometimes when having an argument with your partner, it is okay that you have to prove your point for him or her to know that you are right. However, if you always try so hard to prove that you are right in every argument even when you know that you are on the wrong side, then that is hurting your relationship and can become a source of depression for you or your partner. This can become more alarming when you manipulate people and situations just so that things go to your favor, and you can prove to your partner that you are always right.

You Start to See Your Partner as a Huge Pile of Annoyancer
Your boyfriend’s quirks that you find cute when your relationship was just starting have turned into annoying antics. You find your partner irritating, and every little thing he does even when you are not the direct target annoys you. You hate his jokes and anecdotes. You tell him to shut up each time he tries to tell you a story about his work. When he tries to touch you or let alone hug you, you recoil in disgust. You no longer find him attractive and desirable. When your boyfriend ask you what is wrong, you start to lash out at him, and you end up feeling angrier and sadder because of guilt.
If you do not want your relationship to become a cause of spiraling depression for you and you partner, you need to pay close attention to these red flags.