Relationship Individuality

There are three common factors that all relationships should have. These factors are religion, finances, and a common lifestyle. Having these three beliefs in common are very important when the survival to a relationship is concerned. These major factors help a relationship survive, but having small differences in interest keeps a relationship from going stale.

You don't want to get bored with each other. For instance, say you and him go every place side by side, you hear all the jokes at the same time, you hang out with the same people, basically experiencing everything together. Now, you're home alone with him, and you have nothing to talk about. He's heard all the stories, and jokes. I mean, he was there too.

Now, what are you two ever going to talk about? Now imagine you have the same interests, so you go and do the same activities together. You have the same hobbies. See where I'm going with this?

If you and your man think, act, react, and know everything about each other, plus you know everything about each others lives, because you did it together. You can't possibly be interested in each other.

You're taking the surprises and excitement out of the relationship. You are now your partner, and your partner is you.

You, like many people, may feel like you're abandoning your partner when you first go out without him. It may seem like you are just trying to get away from your partner and it may hurt his feelings. In fact, it may hurt your feelings when he wants to go out without you, but let him. Stop being polite! Don't get me wrong, you always need to respect your partner, but it's OK to let both him and you have time to do your own things.

If you become each other, then you can no longer be the woman he fell in love with in the first place. However, it's important not to take advantage of him in this situation either.

It's never OK to do things that you couldn't tell him about later. BE TRUSTWORTHY! You two need to be yourselves. If you're not yourselves, you can't possibly be happy. He and you will be much happier knowing you can still be yourself, and he'll respect you, and even love you more for it.

Your partner and you still need time as a couple. Especially, alone time so you and him can reconnect. You're going to need time to share all the interesting individual stuff you do when your apart. Plus, time to be in a relationship. You can't be a couple if you're never together. Respect you partner, and having your own lives as individuals will be pleasant and even healthy for your relationship.